Reply #16: Monagamus marriage works well for introverts

[Nikia]

There is nothing scary to me about being with one person for the rest of my life. If I were not allowed to have other friends and be emotionally monagamus, this would be scary though. It is comforting though having someone who makes a vow to always be with you when you prefer close relationships as opposed to having lots of aquaintances. I suppose that this introvert fullfillment could be made by having a close friend or two. American society tends not to value such friendships though. For it to work, your friend must feel as strongly as you do even when his or her family, other friends, romantic partner, workplace, ect. is pulling him or her away from your close relationship. American society values marriage and understands you placing your spouse above everything else, but not your friend(s). Because of these outside demands, you may lose close friends or at least the closeness and be hurt. With marriage, your closeness is values by society and the other person has made a legal agreement with you and often a religious vow. That is comforting to introvert types like my husband and I.