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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-02-03 10:34 PM
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13. Settle down?
Dude - no way!

I agree with Misinformed01 on that...when you can, take off somewhere, wherever you can afford or wherever you can work to support yourself. The European train-backpackers circuit. The Peace Corps. An environmental or social NGO that works in some far-flung place. Something way closer to home.

If this feeling persists beyond your sobering up completely, defintiely consider it. I took off (at 20), when affairs of the heart threatened to basically do me in one way or another, and it made all the difference. There's a saying that's very true: "wherever you go, there you are." A physical move doesn't necessarily remove you from who you are.

But traveling - even if it is not a great spatial distance - and encountering new people and new ideas, or doing new things, can still help you immeasurably in 'finding yourself.' And I'm not sure that you can really find anyone else until you've found yourself...rather, I think that you're more likely to meet Mr or Ms Right once you've found more about who you are, and sometimes it takes a shift in circumstances, location, or whatever to let you really see who you are, away from the everyday familiar.
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  -hahaha, got dumped yb a woman slinkerwink  Nov-02-03 09:34 PM   #0 
  - Well, Noelle...  Tandalayo_Scheisskopf   Nov-02-03 09:39 PM   #1 
  - same here too  slinkerwink   Nov-02-03 09:48 PM   #2 
     - At least you have the option to try men, too  ForrestGump   Nov-02-03 09:57 PM   #3 
        - well  slinkerwink   Nov-02-03 10:00 PM   #4 
           - I felt like that when I was 21, too  ForrestGump   Nov-02-03 10:13 PM   #9 
  - Sorry to hear that  Booberdawg   Nov-02-03 10:00 PM   #5 
  - then why th e sense of being lonely forever?  slinkerwink   Nov-02-03 10:03 PM   #7 
     - because it just happened  Booberdawg   Nov-02-03 10:06 PM   #8 
  - Women can't even understand Women...  FDRrocks   Nov-02-03 10:01 PM   #6 
  - Why in the world would you WANT to meet the "right"  Misinformed01   Nov-02-03 10:17 PM   #10 
  - I'm sick of the dating scene  slinkerwink   Nov-02-03 10:24 PM   #11 
     - Settle down?  ForrestGump   Nov-02-03 10:34 PM   #13 
     - Hey, I JUST settled down  Misinformed01   Nov-02-03 10:42 PM   #15 
     - Settle down! Settle down?  populistmom   Nov-02-03 10:51 PM   #18 
        - I don't want to be married  slinkerwink   Nov-02-03 10:55 PM   #20 
           - Because you're looking  ForrestGump   Nov-02-03 11:34 PM   #24 
  - So why is this different than being dumped by a guy?  Cleita   Nov-02-03 10:26 PM   #12 
  - Can You Talk More About That Fondling Part?  tsipple   Nov-02-03 10:40 PM   #14 
  - I am surprised THAT took so long  Misinformed01   Nov-02-03 10:44 PM   #16 
  - ha!  slinkerwink   Nov-02-03 10:45 PM   #17 
  - don't say you're sexist.  EV1Ltimm   Nov-02-03 10:54 PM   #19 
  - I am absolutely disgusted, I must say, that  ForrestGump   Nov-02-03 11:36 PM   #26 
  - Never give up!  alwynsw   Nov-02-03 11:21 PM   #21 
  - BTW  alwynsw   Nov-02-03 11:22 PM   #22 
  - whre did you get that?  slinkerwink   Nov-02-03 11:35 PM   #25 
     - From your duplicate post that was locked  alwynsw   Nov-02-03 11:37 PM   #27 
     - Incidentally, that was neither a judgement nor a slam  alwynsw   Nov-02-03 11:39 PM   #28 
  - Keep your head held high, Slinkerwink  phgnome   Nov-02-03 11:32 PM   #23 

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