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Lydia Leftcoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-26-05 09:49 AM
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85. If she's not already interested in you, it makes you sound desperate
And it also sounds uncomfortably like those guys in personal ads who "really know how to treat a lady."

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  -What if I told you women that if.... coloradodem2005  May-25-05 09:46 PM   #0 
  - honestly, it's a little creepy.  orangepeel68   May-25-05 09:51 PM   #1 
  - it depends on which woman you're talking about  ChoralScholar   May-25-05 09:57 PM   #8 
  - I agree take the dying part out.  ogradda   May-26-05 01:09 AM   #49 
  - Honestly...  jilln   May-25-05 09:51 PM   #2 
  - ok. Noted for future reference.  coloradodem2005   May-25-05 09:54 PM   #4 
     - With me  FreedomAngel82   May-25-05 10:39 PM   #27 
        - I just like a guy to shower.  maddiejoan   May-26-05 08:45 AM   #77 
  - I don't know  benny05   May-25-05 09:52 PM   #3 
  - I am not a girl but here's my advice. Just be a real person w/ her.  Bread and Circus   May-25-05 09:54 PM   #5 
  - Best advice possible  deutsey   May-26-05 12:19 PM   #125 
  - Yeah, its funny how a lot of women won't stay with guys  Radical Activist   May-25-05 09:55 PM   #6 
  - Treating a woman with dignity and respect is the best way to gain a friend  Bok_Tukalo   May-25-05 09:57 PM   #7 
  - i'm best friends with my husband  progmom   May-25-05 09:58 PM   #9 
  - Your best friend should be your spouse, I firmly believe that.  Bok_Tukalo   May-25-05 09:59 PM   #11 
  - Yeah, exactly.  Radical Activist   May-25-05 10:03 PM   #13 
  - We missed you at the Champaign-Urbana DU meet-up  JVS   May-26-05 02:31 AM   #58 
     - Yeah, I felt bad missing that  Radical Activist   May-26-05 10:09 PM   #178 
  - A friend.  Bouncy Ball   May-25-05 10:31 PM   #20 
  - Of course you do. You are married.  Bok_Tukalo   May-25-05 10:39 PM   #28 
     - No, I mean I actively avoided him even when I was dating.  Bouncy Ball   May-25-05 10:41 PM   #29 
        - You don't have to be an asshole  Bok_Tukalo   May-25-05 10:59 PM   #32 
           - I don't think we disagree here.  Bouncy Ball   May-25-05 11:03 PM   #34 
  - It got my husband a wife.  Left Is Write   May-25-05 10:43 PM   #30 
  - Of course  Bok_Tukalo   May-25-05 10:57 PM   #31 
     - He wasn't looking for a wife.  Left Is Write   May-26-05 12:04 AM   #40 
        - I get the feeling that my cavalier attitude is not welcome in this  Bok_Tukalo   May-26-05 12:18 AM   #41 
           - No, your opinion is as worthy as anyone else's.  Left Is Write   May-26-05 12:23 AM   #42 
              - I certainly hope so  Bok_Tukalo   May-26-05 12:26 AM   #43 
                 - all i can say to that ...  progmom   May-26-05 07:37 AM   #68 
                    - I don't think so.  Bok_Tukalo   May-26-05 01:07 PM   #147 
  - Grrrrrr! Not that "women love to be treated like shit" meme again!  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 10:07 AM   #88 
     - Amen, Lydia Leftcoast!  crispini   May-26-05 11:26 AM   #107 
  - Oh, I don't know ..my husband treats me very well and I just love him  Southsideirish   May-25-05 10:28 PM   #18 
  - I know why that is.  Kire   May-26-05 12:30 AM   #44 
  - What are you talking about?  Radical Activist   May-26-05 12:51 AM   #46 
  - I'm overthrowing the government  Kire   May-26-05 01:26 AM   #50 
     - No, I think  Radical Activist   May-27-05 01:14 AM   #183 
  - Ding-ding-ding-ding-ding!  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 10:14 AM   #91 
  - you got it  JI7   May-26-05 10:54 AM   #98 
  - You don't know a thing about me.  Radical Activist   May-27-05 01:13 AM   #182 
  - Treat me well but you can't "make me" happy  uppityperson   May-26-05 01:53 AM   #51 
  - I think some women WANT to be treated like shit  mutley_r_us   May-26-05 11:51 AM   #113 
     - GRRRR, see my post above  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 12:19 PM   #126 
        - For one thing I am a woman  mutley_r_us   May-26-05 12:34 PM   #134 
           - That doesn't mean they "like" it  lukasahero   May-26-05 12:36 PM   #135 
              - I'm only speaking from my own personal experience  mutley_r_us   May-26-05 12:46 PM   #140 
  - I would think you're sincere, but  Jessica   May-25-05 09:59 PM   #10 
  - I'd say that desperation is unappealing.  Maddy McCall   May-25-05 10:02 PM   #12 
  - I couldn't agree more.  Starlight   May-25-05 10:25 PM   #16 
  - If she's very young she might believe you  Lorien   May-25-05 10:03 PM   #14 
  - Okay, try this instead  jobycom   May-25-05 10:17 PM   #15 
  - That would make me vomit or laugh depending on my mood.  Bouncy Ball   May-25-05 10:32 PM   #21 
     - It's okay, I'm sure I'll never try it. LOL  jobycom   May-25-05 10:35 PM   #24 
        - I meant it when I said don't mind me.  Bouncy Ball   May-25-05 10:39 PM   #26 
           - There are other reasons I can't  jobycom   May-25-05 11:22 PM   #35 
           - Awwwww.  Bouncy Ball   May-25-05 11:32 PM   #36 
           - You may be wierd but not for that  skygazer   May-26-05 12:52 PM   #142 
  - reword it  DS1   May-25-05 10:28 PM   #17 
  - Reword it again "I drive a BMW"  JVS   May-26-05 02:35 AM   #60 
  - I'd say "that's lovely" then shoot you with a tranquilizer gun.  Bouncy Ball   May-25-05 10:30 PM   #19 
  - Dude:  Redstone   May-25-05 10:34 PM   #22 
  - Very true n/t.  Lorien   May-25-05 11:02 PM   #33 
  - Sounds Like My Ex Husband  thecai   May-25-05 10:34 PM   #23 
  - I'd think you were a)talking out your ass, or b)she's a sex goddess.  tjdee   May-25-05 10:36 PM   #25 
  - Wow.  RandomKoolzip   May-25-05 11:32 PM   #37 
  - Make yourself the happiest _man_ on earth or die trying . . .  Heidi   May-25-05 11:41 PM   #38 
  - As a fellow man--I am going to tell you my  R. A. Fuqua   May-25-05 11:52 PM   #39 
  - a good reason to listen to her:  Kire   May-26-05 12:32 AM   #45 
  - I suppose so--but to tell you the  R. A. Fuqua   May-26-05 01:05 AM   #47 
     - may I introduce you to my mother?  Kire   May-26-05 02:01 AM   #52 
     - You are a wise man, and I have no doubt that you are very  Lorien   May-26-05 02:21 AM   #56 
        - Lorien, don't you think people's response to John Ritter  Heidi   May-26-05 02:24 AM   #57 
        - Maybe  Lorien   May-26-05 02:39 AM   #61 
        - I absolutely adored John Ritter.  Vektor   May-26-05 03:11 AM   #65 
  - excellent advice, especially #1  orangepeel68   May-26-05 09:13 AM   #82 
     - Yeah, but if a guy really can make you laugh  Lorien   May-26-05 09:47 AM   #84 
        - Oh, I totally agree  orangepeel68   May-26-05 10:04 AM   #87 
           - Not everyone can be witty, but even two people who aren't witty  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 12:27 PM   #131 
  - Dude, get a hobby  HEyHEY   May-26-05 01:06 AM   #48 
  - Yar! Model ships are a life-saver!  JVS   May-26-05 02:17 AM   #55 
  - They'd probably just find it pathetic.  JVS   May-26-05 02:15 AM   #53 
  - I'm no woman, but the "die trying" part is a little over the top  leftofthedial   May-26-05 02:15 AM   #54 
  - Are you trying  GirlinContempt   May-26-05 02:31 AM   #59 
     - I'm a killer  leftofthedial   May-26-05 10:17 PM   #180 
  - that your comment  benny05   May-26-05 02:58 AM   #62 
  - WAY TOO STRONG!  SouthoftheBorderPaul   May-26-05 03:00 AM   #63 
  - I think the line my husband used was:  Vektor   May-26-05 03:04 AM   #64 
     - that's cute  JI7   May-26-05 10:52 AM   #97 
        - Right, exactly.  Vektor   May-26-05 08:49 PM   #172 
  - Try to be a happy man within yourself.  SarahBelle   May-26-05 05:24 AM   #66 
  - I've got it. You two should date  jpgray   May-26-05 11:57 AM   #115 
     - That wouldn't work.  SarahBelle   May-26-05 03:33 PM   #168 
  - Depends on the context...  sjbech   May-26-05 06:24 AM   #67 
  - Romantically, women are like republicans...  gmoney   May-26-05 07:58 AM   #69 
  - Not necessarily true.  fudge stripe cookays   May-26-05 08:13 AM   #70 
  - You missed my point a bit...  gmoney   May-26-05 08:32 AM   #72 
     - You are very wise. You should publish a newsletter.  JVS   May-26-05 10:10 AM   #90 
     - First of all,  fudge stripe cookays   May-26-05 10:27 AM   #92 
     - "Get Confident, Stupid!"  gmoney   May-26-05 10:59 AM   #100 
        - We are all responsible for our own self-esteem  lukasahero   May-26-05 11:22 AM   #104 
        - Points are being made right and left....  fudge stripe cookays   May-26-05 12:23 PM   #129 
           - Wow FSC!  Lorien   May-26-05 01:04 PM   #146 
              - Well then,  fudge stripe cookays   May-26-05 02:20 PM   #159 
     - If your self-esteem comes from how other people treat you, it's  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 10:56 AM   #99 
     - Oh, man, every time I took on a guy and tried to  crispini   May-26-05 11:34 AM   #108 
     - Not to mention we get stereotyped for that too  lukasahero   May-26-05 11:52 AM   #114 
     - Well said!  fudge stripe cookays   May-26-05 12:04 PM   #117 
     - Bingo  cassandra uprising   May-26-05 12:12 PM   #120 
     - Thank you for your posts on this  last_texas_dem   May-26-05 11:38 AM   #109 
        - Modest is not the opposite of confident.  crispini   May-26-05 11:59 AM   #116 
           - I guess the problem to me is  last_texas_dem   May-26-05 12:13 PM   #121 
              - Then you're going after the wrong women  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 12:33 PM   #133 
              - Well, define "modesty,"  crispini   May-26-05 01:53 PM   #156 
  - I don't even know where to begin replying.  Heidi   May-26-05 08:31 AM   #71 
  - Wrong!  SarahBelle   May-26-05 08:37 AM   #74 
  - That is really sad  progmom   May-26-05 08:41 AM   #75 
  - Ding ding frickin' ding  lukasahero   May-26-05 09:32 AM   #83 
  - Double ding ding!  Lorien   May-26-05 10:41 AM   #95 
  - yikes!  cassandra uprising   May-26-05 09:02 AM   #78 
  - well, it's taken me almost 42 years to get this bitter...  gmoney   May-26-05 09:55 AM   #86 
  - And people being unkind to you doesn't help, I know.  Heidi   May-26-05 10:07 AM   #89 
     - Well, in person, you might never guess it, either...  gmoney   May-26-05 10:29 AM   #93 
  - Total bullshit  Lorien   May-26-05 10:40 AM   #94 
  - I'm honored to have achieved TOTAL bullshit  gmoney   May-26-05 11:23 AM   #105 
     - Plenty of ugly idiots get beautiful women into their bedrooms  Lorien   May-26-05 11:45 AM   #111 
        - Sitcoms as a basis for reality?  gmoney   May-26-05 12:25 PM   #130 
           - I never said that sitcoms are a basis for reality  Lorien   May-26-05 12:55 PM   #143 
  - Wow! What a very nice slap in the face!  Misunderestimator   May-26-05 11:00 AM   #101 
  - Never said that...  gmoney   May-26-05 11:08 AM   #102 
  - As a matter of fact, I do not have different standards romantically.  Misunderestimator   May-26-05 11:11 AM   #103 
     - Thank you, Misunderestimator  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 11:25 AM   #106 
  - We take care of everybody and everything  MissMillie   May-26-05 02:40 PM   #162 
     - no, you're not supposed to be responsible for men's self-esteem  gmoney   May-26-05 03:07 PM   #164 
  - Oh man - wow  ChavezSpeakstheTruth   May-26-05 12:22 PM   #128 
  - OK. "Uncle" I cry...  gmoney   May-26-05 12:38 PM   #136 
     - With an attitude like that, I'm not surprised  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 12:44 PM   #139 
     - Talk about "damned if you do, damned if you don't..."  gmoney   May-26-05 12:58 PM   #144 
     - I rest my case.  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 01:02 PM   #145 
     - There is no winning dude  JVS   May-26-05 01:11 PM   #148 
     - Kick me long enough and I'll say whatever you want me to say...  gmoney   May-26-05 01:29 PM   #149 
        - Yeah, but it isn't enough to say it. You have to believe it and go...  JVS   May-26-05 01:32 PM   #152 
        - I love it when people attack someone else, then turn it around to 'oh poor  Misunderestimator   May-26-05 01:35 PM   #154 
           - Attacked women?  gmoney   May-26-05 01:51 PM   #155 
              - I can't argue with someone who can't admit what they said...  Misunderestimator   May-26-05 02:16 PM   #157 
                 - "If you don't know what you said..."  gmoney   May-26-05 02:54 PM   #163 
                    - Sometimes that applies, so in this case I'll humor you...  Misunderestimator   May-26-05 03:17 PM   #165 
                       - Succcess and Failure in romantic terms...not financial.  gmoney   May-26-05 04:32 PM   #170 
                          - It doesn't MATTER what you are trying to say, it matters what you say.  Misunderestimator   May-26-05 04:44 PM   #171 
     - Hey...  fudge stripe cookays   May-26-05 02:26 PM   #161 
  - That you were my husband?  Shell Beau   May-26-05 08:33 AM   #73 
  - I'd say you were nuts  MissMillie   May-26-05 08:45 AM   #76 
  - It does sound needy.  bushwentawol   May-26-05 09:03 AM   #79 
  - IMO it's all about reciprocation  movie_girl99   May-26-05 09:05 AM   #80 
  - Ease up there killer  cassandra uprising   May-26-05 09:06 AM   #81 
  - If she's not already interested in you, it makes you sound desperate  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 09:49 AM   #85 
  - just be who you are  datasuspect   May-26-05 10:51 AM   #96 
  - "What if I told you people that if...."  Senior citizen   May-26-05 11:44 AM   #110 
  - try " I would make you the happiest woman on earth or kill you trying"  ChavezSpeakstheTruth   May-26-05 11:49 AM   #112 
  - !  SouthoftheBorderPaul   May-26-05 12:08 PM   #118 
  - Bwahahahahaha!!!  Maddy McCall   May-26-05 12:09 PM   #119 
  - That's so money!  JVS   May-26-05 12:15 PM   #122 
  - thank you, thank you, Chavez will be in the Lounge all week  cassandra uprising   May-26-05 12:15 PM   #123 
     - Honey - you better be happy or it's curtains for you!  ChavezSpeakstheTruth   May-26-05 12:18 PM   #124 
        - Oh I'm happy  cassandra uprising   May-26-05 12:30 PM   #132 
  - Most of us would know  hyphenate   May-26-05 12:20 PM   #127 
  - Oh no you didn't!!  ChavezSpeakstheTruth   May-26-05 12:40 PM   #137 
  - So whaddaya really want, Coloradodem2005?  Lydia Leftcoast   May-26-05 12:40 PM   #138 
  - That you were full of shit  skygazer   May-26-05 12:46 PM   #141 
  - i like the cut of your jib  datasuspect   May-26-05 01:31 PM   #151 
  - Skygazer, you win the prize for saying:  Redstone   May-26-05 01:33 PM   #153 
  - I'd think you're really pussy whipped at the moment.  hippiechick   May-26-05 01:30 PM   #150 
  - No one can make someone else be happy. You can only make  grace0418   May-26-05 02:20 PM   #158 
  - just a hypothetical  northzax   May-26-05 02:23 PM   #160 
  - I'm really reluctant to wade into this...  enigmatic   May-26-05 03:19 PM   #166 
  - Best post of this entire thread - Read it DC please!  lukasahero   May-26-05 03:24 PM   #167 
  - Thanks  enigmatic   May-26-05 04:00 PM   #169 
  - Self-delete.  Redstone   May-26-05 09:11 PM   #173 
  - I think the thing is....  enigmatic   May-26-05 09:20 PM   #174 
     - I agree with you; it was just that my post did not contribute  Redstone   May-26-05 09:54 PM   #177 
        - You got it, my friend  enigmatic   May-26-05 10:15 PM   #179 
  - So all of us offered worthless advice  Lorien   May-26-05 09:36 PM   #175 
     - There is  enigmatic   May-26-05 09:43 PM   #176 
  - I'd say you sound LONELY, dude...  dxstone   May-27-05 12:03 AM   #181 
 

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