Ok, I need a relationship rules clarification

[VelmaD]

Given that I haven't been in one for a while (and the ones I have been in haven't exactly been high-quality) I admit I'm not that up to date on how these things should be interpretted.

Anyway, I was talking to a friend today and he told me about something odd that happened with his wife. They were watching tv and somehow whatever they were watching turned to the topic of married people having sex with other folks besides their spouse. (I don't know if it was about "cheating" or if it was about consensual polyamory or what) Anyway, she turned to him and said, ""You can do whatever you want, I just don't want to know about it".

He stammered something along the lines of..."ummmm". He's confused about how to take it. So am I. So I'm asking y'all. What would you think if your partner said that to you and that's ALL they said on the subject? Do you think it means "do whatever you want, I really don't care, just don't talk to me about it, don't expect me to participate in that 3sum fantasy, and be discreet so I don't have to hear about it from my friends"? Or would you interpret it as "do what you want but you better not let me find out about it or I'll have to kill you"?

We're both a little confused. :shrug: