Reply #26: I echo Maddy

[salin]

it is important that he feels safe at school - and that you feel confident that he is safe at school.

I grew up with a young man who is autistic. Thanks to his mother (a family friend) who fought for his right to an education even before special education was common and mainstreaming was a goal - he graduated from high school and college. He got a fed. job in the computer field and has been living independently for nearly 10 years. However, his Mom's biggest fear is that he doesn't know when he should be wary of people. Over the years he has learned when to talk with close friends and family about situations that may or may not be normal (or worthy of wariness) and through those conversations has achieved a sort of (vicarious) wariness that keeps him safe and gives her ease of mind that he will be okay even when she is no longer nearby (100 miles) and able to step in when needed.