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AGiordino Donating Member (304 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-11-05 11:18 PM
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26. Behavior as well as quantity are indicators of trouble
Question 1: Can she stop drinking without emotional or physical problems?
Question 2: Has her drinking ever been related to incidents in which she was not in control - again mentally, emotionally or physically?
Question 3: Is there truly any thing that you can do to rectify the situation without causing discord?

If not, Al-anon is definitely for you because the program relates solely to you and the 3 C's (didn't Cause it, can't Cure it, can't Control it)
and the care that you need to invest in yourself and your mental and physical health.

Okay, that all said, I am a recovering alcoholic who also attends Al-anon meetings. So this isn't just an ego inflated opinion. Been there, done that, Lost shit (important shit).

Now a word about your sister.
Hounding her to quit will not work.
Pleading with to quit will not work.
She has to come to a point of surrender of will in order for her abstinence to be successful. And unfortunately, no one can aid her in that journey. Mine took 30 years, but I have been free and happy for two years now. My prayers for your family.
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  -Should I be concerned about my sister's drinking? LDS Jock  Jan-11-05 10:44 PM   #0 
  - I would absolutely be concerned.  Left Is Write   Jan-11-05 10:45 PM   #1 
  - As the son of an alcoholic, yeah  JohnKleeb   Jan-11-05 10:45 PM   #2 
  - There's nothing wrong with being concerned.  motely36   Jan-11-05 10:46 PM   #3 
  - no, I haven't yet  LDS Jock   Jan-11-05 10:51 PM   #11 
     - I come from a long line of alcoholics  motely36   Jan-11-05 10:55 PM   #14 
     - LDS, don't think you need to mind your own business!  AllyCat   Jan-11-05 10:59 PM   #18 
        - This is a good idea.  tjdee   Jan-11-05 11:00 PM   #21 
        - I hadn't even thought of that.. I'll look into it  LDS Jock   Jan-11-05 11:02 PM   #22 
           - Here's a link  AllyCat   Jan-11-05 11:05 PM   #23 
              - thanks... n/t  LDS Jock   Jan-11-05 11:08 PM   #25 
  - 12-15 beers is too much in one night  JVS   Jan-11-05 10:47 PM   #4 
  - Second that (nt)  jpgray   Jan-11-05 10:47 PM   #5 
  - I drink a lot but that's cause for concern  haruka3_2000   Jan-11-05 10:48 PM   #6 
  - Are you sure it's that much?  tjdee   Jan-11-05 10:49 PM   #7 
  - I know it is that much  LDS Jock   Jan-11-05 10:54 PM   #12 
     - Sorry to hear that.  tjdee   Jan-11-05 10:57 PM   #16 
  - 12 to 14 drinks a week is the max  eleonora   Jan-11-05 10:49 PM   #8 
  - Definitely, she has a problem..........  Hieronymus   Jan-11-05 10:50 PM   #9 
  - A woman should have no more than 7 drinks per week...  hollywood926   Jan-11-05 10:50 PM   #10 
  - Wow, that's really a lot  OnionPatch   Jan-11-05 10:54 PM   #13 
  - nope, .. our own apartment  LDS Jock   Jan-11-05 10:57 PM   #17 
  - That amount does sound like bingeing.  vixengrl   Jan-11-05 10:56 PM   #15 
  - I couldn't get to half that I don't think.  tjdee   Jan-11-05 10:59 PM   #19 
  - She'll probably need inpatient care at that rate  nothingshocksmeanymore   Jan-11-05 10:59 PM   #20 
  - I would approach her about it.  steely   Jan-11-05 11:08 PM   #24 
  - Behavior as well as quantity are indicators of trouble  AGiordino   Jan-11-05 11:18 PM   #26 
  - what was your final breaking point?  LDS Jock   Jan-11-05 11:30 PM   #27 
  - Yes you should be very concerned  Droopy   Jan-11-05 11:49 PM   #28 
  - I don't think anyone who's not a problem drinker would need  Plaid Adder   Jan-11-05 11:54 PM   #29 
  - LDS, you should be concerned....  Niche   Jan-12-05 12:05 AM   #30 

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