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MADem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-05 11:09 PM
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17. You have some decisions to make, clearly
You probably want to think about why you want to tell this uncle. You're expecting him to excoriate you, and you're probably figuring he won't pay for your college after he knows the truth. Is this the case, or am I reading more into it than I should?

I know that some people feel a need to be totally honest with people regarding every aspect of their lives. I'm of the "what they don't know, won't hurt them" school of thought, especially if I know they'll just be pissed off about something or engage in continual criticism. I have very few GOP relatives (I am blessed) but I just avoid political discourse with them, and if they push it, I tell them to back off because my mind is made up, and how about them Red Sox?

Do you think you will change uncle's heart? Do you seek a confrontation? What do your parents have to say about telling the uncle? I should think they might be able to help you sort this out, have you asked for their help or advice?

Are you willing to go to school part time, and work to pay your tuition, or maybe switch to a cheaper school?

I don't see that you gain much by telling the uncle anything at this point, and you lose the tuition, if he is indeed a prejudiced type. Of course, it's your life, and your call. But if I were you, I'd talk to your parents about it in some depth. After all, they know the guy, and probably have a good idea about what kind of flack you will be taking...
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  -I'm Really Scared To Tell My Family That I'm Gay Placebo  Jan-02-05 10:55 PM   #0 
  - Tell your uncle Freeper that his favorite nephew is a FLAMING FAGGOT  Willy Wonka   Jan-02-05 10:57 PM   #1 
  - i caught my freeper neighbor over that harry potter thing once  7th_Sephiroth   Jan-02-05 10:57 PM   #2 
  - When do you graduate?  smbolisnch   Jan-02-05 10:57 PM   #3 
  - I just started...  Placebo   Jan-02-05 10:59 PM   #5 
     - If you can't wait until the family graduation party  smbolisnch   Jan-02-05 11:02 PM   #10 
     - how often do you have to see him  thebigdonkey   Jan-02-05 11:02 PM   #13 
  - its alright bro  metisnation   Jan-02-05 10:57 PM   #4 
  - Wait and announce it at graduation.  cags   Jan-02-05 11:00 PM   #6 
  - RESIST! Get your diploma, THEN break out the news.  Commie Pinko Dirtbag   Jan-02-05 11:00 PM   #7 
  - Seconded  bloodyjack   Jan-02-05 11:24 PM   #32 
  - hard to tell you how to deal with this situation  jellybelly   Jan-02-05 11:00 PM   #8 
  - Tell Uncle Freeper you've decided on pre-law for a major  short bus president   Jan-02-05 11:01 PM   #9 
  - Don't tell him  Maple   Jan-02-05 11:02 PM   #11 
  - Never an easy decision, Placebo  LearnedHand   Jan-02-05 11:02 PM   #12 
  - Well it's more than that, it's who I am...  Placebo   Jan-02-05 11:07 PM   #16 
     - You seem to be OK with your parents. Why not talk about it with them?  Commie Pinko Dirtbag   Jan-02-05 11:10 PM   #21 
     - I understand that completely!  LearnedHand   Jan-02-05 11:16 PM   #29 
  - I'm sorry  Miami Liberal   Jan-02-05 11:02 PM   #14 
  - Four.  Placebo   Jan-02-05 11:05 PM   #15 
     - Since you rely on your freeper uncle for tuition money  Miami Liberal   Jan-02-05 11:09 PM   #19 
  - You have some decisions to make, clearly  MADem   Jan-02-05 11:09 PM   #17 
  - buck up laddie, think of yourself as the jackie robinson of your family  kodi   Jan-02-05 11:09 PM   #18 
  - Get your education and then tell your freeper relatives  Droopy   Jan-02-05 11:09 PM   #20 
  - I guess.  Placebo   Jan-02-05 11:13 PM   #24 
  - All I can offer is prayers and good luck, Placebo.  tuvor   Jan-02-05 11:12 PM   #22 
  - thats tough.. I'm sorry to hear it  Boy Interrupted   Jan-02-05 11:13 PM   #23 
  - I'm @...  Placebo   Jan-02-05 11:14 PM   #27 
  - Its none of his business  Rowdyboy   Jan-02-05 11:13 PM   #25 
  - Wow, not an easy position for you  koneko   Jan-02-05 11:14 PM   #26 
  - Here's 2 of my cents:  WindRavenX   Jan-02-05 11:16 PM   #28 
  - Thanks WRX...  Placebo   Jan-02-05 11:17 PM   #30 
     - I'd offer you my five bucks...  WindRavenX   Jan-02-05 11:24 PM   #31 
        - I've got half a bolly of stoli...  Placebo   Jan-02-05 11:26 PM   #33 
           - SCORE!!!!  WindRavenX   Jan-02-05 11:32 PM   #35 
  - How often do you see your uncle?  progmom   Jan-02-05 11:32 PM   #34 
  - I guess I don't see him THAT much...  Placebo   Jan-02-05 11:34 PM   #36 
  - Only you can make the decision  OhioBlue   Jan-02-05 11:41 PM   #37 
  - For what it's worth, if they have a problem with it, to hell with 'em!  Boswells_Johnson   Jan-02-05 11:43 PM   #38 
  - If your sexuality has not been a formal  liberalnurse   Jan-02-05 11:50 PM   #39 
  - Tough situation to be in, I'm sure...  ALiberalSailor   Jan-03-05 12:10 AM   #40 
  - Just think of it this way...  personman   Jan-03-05 12:23 AM   #41 
     - Haha...  Placebo   Jan-03-05 12:33 AM   #42 

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