Reply #91: Kgf, I can't believe no one has asked.......

[Rowdyboy]

are you on any medication for clinical depression? Several years ago I was absolutely miserable, unmotivated, taking no enjoyment in things that typically brought me happiness. After 6 weeks on a mild anti-depressant, I recovered my spirits and was far better prepared to take charge of my life. He (your partner), also, probably needs medical help. I know many people think its a sign of weakness, but I think its just good sense. Better living through chemistry!

I've been in your situation (on a MUCH) smaller scale and my heart really goes out to you. I had a dear friend with a BS in design engineering and an unfortunate tendency to drive his car naked. After his third arrest, he was unemployable in our rural southern area. His wife stayed with him (he was bi-sexual)and they survived-barely. I don't know if he ever got a job. Several years after I left town I heard he had died-no details.

You're in a no-win situation. Know that you have people here who care about you and want to see you come through this. Don't give into depression. You can't afford self-pity right now.

We can't help who we love and you are a loyal and loving friend (although a thoroughly co-dependant one). I have no answers, just a prayer that things will get better for you.