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Magrittes Pipe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-21-04 02:21 PM
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13. Seriously, loafie:
Sit down with him. Tell him you're pissed. Tell him WHY you're pissed (we men can be dense sometimes). If I know anything about Magic Rat, he'll probably be totally ashamed and apologetic -- and I'm sure that he'll mean it, too.

The secret is not to pretend you're not mad. That would just be another lie. Admit to your feelings, but do try to be supportive -- if you want him to quit, and he wants to quit, this is something you can do together -- who knows, maybe it could bring you closer.

Stick to your guns -- make sure he knows it's not okay for him to lie to you. At the same time, you need to know how hard it is to quit, and that he WILL stumble sometimes. When he does, he needs to be secure enough to admit it to you, and you need not to judge him too harshly.

Soon enough, all will be roses again. :)
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  -I hate being lied to loafie  Jul-21-04 01:46 PM   #0 
  - Have you talked to him about it?  whoisalhedges   Jul-21-04 01:47 PM   #1 
  - Well, it's one step better than your husband cheating  molly   Jul-21-04 01:47 PM   #2 
  - Tell Skittles. She'll kick his ass.  GOPisEvil   Jul-21-04 01:47 PM   #3 
  - Quitting is really hard...  jedicord   Jul-21-04 01:48 PM   #4 
  - I am sure it's hard  loafie   Jul-21-04 01:51 PM   #7 
     - Bit of an overreaction?  doctorbombeigh   Jul-21-04 02:02 PM   #11 
     - okay  VaLabor   Jul-21-04 02:07 PM   #12 
  - I did the same thing once  shylock1579   Jul-21-04 01:49 PM   #5 
  - That's definitely not a good thing... you do need to confront him.  Misunderestimator   Jul-21-04 01:50 PM   #6 
  - Smoking is an addiction  56kid   Jul-21-04 01:54 PM   #8 
  - Uhm, how'd you not taste that when you kissed him?  sirjwtheblack   Jul-21-04 01:56 PM   #9 
  - we don't kiss  loafie   Jul-21-04 01:58 PM   #10 
  - Seriously, loafie:  whoisalhedges   Jul-21-04 02:21 PM   #13 
  - THAT BASTARD!  Magic Rat   Jul-21-04 02:35 PM   #14 
  - always with the jokes rat.  loafie   Jul-21-04 02:36 PM   #15 
  - Being lied to sucks...  YellowRubberDuckie   Jul-21-04 02:44 PM   #16 
  - Aww, loafie...  SOteric   Jul-21-04 02:59 PM   #17 

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