Reply #15: You have my sympathies too, Heddi.

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If I go on vacation anywhere except near where each of them live, neither of my parents would say anything.

Last year I had to save up my vacation time until October to accomodate my mother who came to see me for ten loooong days. It was more her vacation than mine. I felt I made a sacrifice, and she felt it was due her.

Both of my parents have always been very selfish and self-absorbed, and it just figures that everything is still all about them.

This is an actual quote from my mother: "If I hadn't left you kids, I never would have lived my life." Hope it was worth it Mom.

Yes, this is not only about parents who want my undivided affection -- they also want it after not giving a shit and giving us up when we were kids, and they wonder why we're ambivalent about them now.