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69. Well, not laughed at
but just about every adult with any sort of active social life has at one point or another felt rejected, dumped, let go, given their walkin' papers, whatever you want to call it.

A fellow I had a long-standing attraction to was be charming and flirty. He would talk with me at length on any given subject. It always seemed to me that we had fun when we spent time in one another's company. But he never gave any indication that there was more to it for him than the sort of light, meaningless flirtation that is standard in many social circles. So I summoned up my courage and told him point blank that I was interested in him, romantically. (I was afraid I'd crap my drawers, I was so nervous.)

In the spirit of that same honesty he assured me he could never find himself romantically attracted to me. He had a thing for big-breasted Amazon blondes, and dammit he "deserved one." This scrawny, underweight little brunette never felt so unenchanting in her whole life. I held it together nicely (I think) but I went home and cried for a week.

Jeff L., -wherever you maybe in this world: I'm sure your Lady Love has at least one big boob.

In the "you've been dumped" department, I think the most spectacular occasion was when the guy I'd been seeing for about 6 or 7 months just dropped off the radar. Quit calling, ceased stopping by, didn't seem to show up at any of the usual spots. Friends of his just looked uncomfortable, said he "wasn't in town right now and they didn't know when he'd be back."

He showed up to comfort me a few years later at the funeral for the man who'd been my lover for most of the intervening years. We're actually quite close friends now, but I still do not recommend the 'evaporation' method to anyone hoping to end a relationship. That's one ugly f*cker of a way to find out you're not necessary to someone's continued happiness.

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  -Ever been dumped, rejected or laughed at? zizzer  Aug-21-03 12:51 PM   #0 
  - Definitely  Syn_Dem   Aug-21-03 01:02 PM   #1 
  - No, no, no! Vent. Let it all out  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:11 PM   #12 
  - Congrats Syn_Dem!! 200 posts  newyawker99   Aug-22-03 10:14 AM   #84 
  - Getting shot down is part of dating..  JackDragna   Aug-21-03 01:03 PM   #2 
  - Yes, write it!  leftist_rebel1569   Aug-21-03 01:04 PM   #3 
  - useless..  JackDragna   Aug-21-03 01:05 PM   #6 
  - no, it's ok...  leftist_rebel1569   Aug-21-03 01:07 PM   #7 
     - Get back inside!  JackDragna   Aug-21-03 01:08 PM   #8 
        - what did I miss?  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:32 PM   #29 
           - It's from a show..Aqua Teen Hunger Force.  JackDragna   Aug-21-03 01:42 PM   #34 
  - Come on...don't be vague...  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:15 PM   #14 
     - Don't feel like details...  leftist_rebel1569   Aug-22-03 11:02 AM   #88 
        - OK, this time...  zizzer   Aug-22-03 11:13 AM   #89 
  - ... AND Cheated On. (The Bastard!)  arwalden   Aug-21-03 01:04 PM   #4 
  - tell  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:17 PM   #15 
     - When Your Loved One Brings Home Crabs...  arwalden   Aug-21-03 01:18 PM   #17 
     - Yep...been down that road. Being cheated on SUCKS!  GOPisEvil   Aug-21-03 01:24 PM   #22 
  - I'm 3 for 3 on your list  short bus president   Aug-21-03 01:05 PM   #5 
  -  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:18 PM   #16 
  - Ahhh, I think you can relate to my story, then. Here goes:  catzies   Aug-21-03 01:19 PM   #18 
  - Wow... What a jerk.  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:24 PM   #23 
  - That's shocking and horrifying!  short bus president   Aug-21-03 01:25 PM   #24 
     - Thanks! I always win "worst rejection" contests with that story.  catzies   Aug-21-03 01:39 PM   #31 
        - I'm familiar with  short bus president   Aug-21-03 01:58 PM   #46 
           - I'm already buying you a beer when you come to California!  catzies   Aug-21-03 02:06 PM   #50 
              - Woohoo! Accosting!  short bus president   Aug-21-03 02:07 PM   #51 
  - Isn't that normal foreplay...  VelmaD   Aug-22-03 10:19 AM   #85 
  - WHY? WHY did you do it?  zizzer   Aug-22-03 10:53 AM   #86 
  - That happens to me just about every night.  TXlib   Aug-22-03 01:07 PM   #95 
  - Not all people like rehashing some of their most painful moments-  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-21-03 01:09 PM   #9 
  - Btw- you really blew it with the drunk chick.  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-21-03 01:13 PM   #13 
     - NO. I was waiting for...  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:21 PM   #20 
        - That's fine-  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-21-03 01:52 PM   #40 
        - You're a REAL man, zizzer.  Booberdawg   Aug-21-03 02:29 PM   #62 
           - Thank you  zizzer   Aug-21-03 02:50 PM   #65 
              - one point-  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-21-03 04:00 PM   #74 
              - I agree with *this* post of yours, however...  GOPisEvil   Aug-22-03 11:23 AM   #91 
                 - why couldn't she have been the one "taking advantage of the situation"?  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-22-03 12:57 PM   #93 
                    - That's a lot of what-ifs.  GOPisEvil   Aug-22-03 01:08 PM   #96 
                       - But sometimes a guy can think he's being gallant-  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-22-03 07:03 PM   #98 
              - Deleted message  Name removed   Aug-21-03 04:57 PM   #75 
                 - If SHE took off her own panties-  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-21-03 06:13 PM   #81 
  - I've never actually been struck  Syn_Dem   Aug-21-03 01:10 PM   #10 
  - You're strange!  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:22 PM   #21 
  - Dumped, rejected, laughed at? Describes my dating life perfectly!  GOPisEvil   Aug-21-03 01:10 PM   #11 
  - Met a likely prospect for drinks after work  Zolok   Aug-21-03 01:19 PM   #19 
  - She may have had an eating disorder.  mac56   Aug-21-03 01:26 PM   #26 
  - No she has a healthy appetite  Zolok   Aug-21-03 02:06 PM   #49 
     - It was her loss.  mac56   Aug-21-03 02:09 PM   #52 
        - Exactly.  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-21-03 02:20 PM   #58 
  - Ouch!  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:27 PM   #28 
  - She may have had later plans-  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-21-03 02:10 PM   #53 
     - She was a friend...  Zolok   Aug-21-03 03:36 PM   #68 
  - nope  northzax   Aug-21-03 01:26 PM   #25 
  - Yes - sometimes all in one day.  Bob3   Aug-21-03 01:27 PM   #27 
  - ....  Fixated   Aug-21-03 01:37 PM   #30 
  - yeah...when it's friends...  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:47 PM   #37 
  - I hear you bro  Syn_Dem   Aug-21-03 01:40 PM   #32 
  - ...  Fixated   Aug-21-03 01:40 PM   #33 
  - I agree!  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:48 PM   #38 
  - You know that old line, "Sorry, I have to wash my hair that night"?  mac56   Aug-21-03 01:42 PM   #35 
  - Think of it this way you might have not met your wife if the girl didn't  corarose   Aug-21-03 01:43 PM   #36 
  - I agree  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:52 PM   #43 
  - Well since everyone is sharing I might as well go into some of  Syn_Dem   Aug-21-03 01:50 PM   #39 
  - kid...  zizzer   Aug-21-03 01:59 PM   #47 
  - 15-year olds don't have long-distance relationships.  MiltonLeBerle   Aug-21-03 02:26 PM   #60 
  - What makes you think she didn't want to hurt you?  WhoCountsTheVotes   Aug-21-03 03:04 PM   #67 
  - You're both at that age...  NRK   Aug-21-03 05:00 PM   #77 
  - only when posting on DU  leftofthedial   Aug-21-03 01:52 PM   #41 
  - All three, actually!  NightTrain   Aug-21-03 01:52 PM   #42 
  - I'm a songwriter  leftofthedial   Aug-21-03 02:10 PM   #54 
  - It happens.  Rainydaze   Aug-21-03 01:56 PM   #44 
  - Whoa!  Booberdawg   Aug-21-03 02:16 PM   #55 
     - It was a real laugh riot.  Rainydaze   Aug-21-03 02:25 PM   #59 
        - Rainydaze  Booberdawg   Aug-21-03 02:44 PM   #64 
           - Not taken that way.  Rainydaze   Aug-21-03 03:47 PM   #70 
  - You must be very young if those are the worst rejections that  MISSDem   Aug-21-03 01:56 PM   #45 
  - yes...yes...  zizzer   Aug-21-03 02:04 PM   #48 
  - In 10th grade I went on a double date with twin girls from TX....  unidentifiedbassplayer   Aug-21-03 02:17 PM   #56 
  - Wait a minute here...  zizzer   Aug-21-03 02:20 PM   #57 
     - No, pair twins, two guys...wait, that's not what I meant...ahhh..  unidentifiedbassplayer   Aug-21-03 02:31 PM   #63 
        - you know...  zizzer   Aug-21-03 02:52 PM   #66 
  - Here's one for the book...straight gal attracted to a guy looking gal  patdem   Aug-21-03 02:29 PM   #61 
  - Well, not laughed at  SOteric   Aug-21-03 03:40 PM   #69 
  - Married for 10 years, 2 kids, and then one day, out of the blue...  monkeyboy   Aug-21-03 03:48 PM   #71 
  - how terrible...not talking is so passive-agressive...HATE IT!!!  noiretblu   Aug-22-03 11:18 AM   #90 
     - romance with people that have kids  zizzer   Aug-22-03 11:24 AM   #92 
  - Yes, yes, and yes. The third being almost a daily occurence in my  MrsGrumpy   Aug-21-03 03:50 PM   #72 
  - My Panties fell off at Grade School one time  corarose   Aug-21-03 03:57 PM   #73 
  - might as well ask.."Have you ever breathed air ?"  SoCalDem   Aug-21-03 04:59 PM   #76 
  - Okay  Ivory_Tower   Aug-21-03 05:24 PM   #78 
  - LOL! Ain't life a bitch?  Booberdawg   Aug-21-03 10:03 PM   #83 
  - Every time.  baldguy   Aug-21-03 06:03 PM   #79 
  - message deleted  Desertrose   Aug-21-03 06:12 PM   #80 
  - not laughed at (not to my face anyway)  Astarho   Aug-21-03 06:17 PM   #82 
  - She has earned my eternal wrath!  ZombyWoof   Aug-22-03 01:05 PM   #94 
     - Thanks  Astarho   Aug-22-03 06:49 PM   #97 
  - Dumped for a model, deja vous  Chilly_Willy   Aug-22-03 11:01 AM   #87 
  - Yr the best fk I ever had but I never...  carolinayellowdog   Aug-22-03 09:20 PM   #99 

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