Reply #183: I don't absolutely "know" as you do, but my beliefs....

[LanternWaste]

I believe an SO should have a say in his/her partner's choices. *Any* choices of *any* consequence. I'm afraid I must not understand what you define as "having a say". To me it means both partners carefully listening to the other and warranting them all due consideration.

Again, you don't seem to understand that I already realize that if a choice is made by the SO, there is nothing I can do about it legally. I realize that and accept it as fact. I comprehend that I cannot make a choice for another person any more than another person can make a choice for me. No one can in any given situation, no more than I can tell you what to think or what not to think.

If I decided to get a tattoo and my g/f disagreed with the position, then we would discuss it and hopefully reach an agreement. To me, that is what "having a say" means, regardless of the eventual outcoome (luckily for me, she talked me out it so many years ago and good for her, 'cause I'd feel like a elitist-boob if I had one now). Some SO's allow the partnership of the two to take priority over self, or the one. I think that's part and parcel of a solid foundation for any relationship.

This is merely my opinion. I don't consider myself wise enough to "absolutely know" what the right or wrong thing is as do you. Maybe I prioritize the "two shall be as one" part of a loving relationship more than I should....

On Edit and as an aside: Additionally, I don't believe that right and wrong are predicated on emotions, but then I happen to be what is derisively called (at least these days) as a moral absolutist.