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hexola Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-21-05 01:47 PM
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108. My step children are in no way resented...
My soon to be wife has her tubes tied. So when I decided that I was in love for this woman for good...I knew that I was kissing the chance of having any children of my own goodbye. One of the reasons - perhaps - I look back on my own situation with disdain.

But - I decided that I should not look a gift horse in the mouth, and try to do my best with the children that have been charged to my care. Ablsolutely my choice. I think I've told them this. If not - I'll make sure I tell them tonight.

I do somewhat resent the real father - no support, 7 DUIs, major physical abuser...3 out of the last 7 years in jail - yeah, slack! Nonetheless - I try to keep them in contact with him...I dont run him down in front of them. But for the most part - he is content to drink his life away. However - at this point, they've lived most of their lives with me. They talk like me, they move like me, they just look like someone else...

The grandchildren dont know the differnence...Pappy is Pappy...it will be years before they make the connection.

I'll try to write something later that might more accurately define my views on this subject. I'm not religious - I don't want Roe repealed.

It's really the politics/concept of "Choice" that gets my goat...I'll start a new thread and try to explain.

I'll try to tone it down a bit...maybe I wont say anything - I dont want Roe changed - and that puts us all on the same team - for the upcoming battle.

Sorry to ruffle and feathers...
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  - Thank you for sharing this incredibly  senseandsensibility   Jul-20-05 09:53 PM   #1 
  - Which makes you Pro-choice Senseandsensibility...you don't impose your  Pachamama   Jul-21-05 12:56 AM   #26 
  - You are what is known as PROCHOICE, sens .  kestrel91316   Jul-21-05 01:18 AM   #29 
  - Thank you for sharing your story with us.  SCRUBDASHRUB   Jul-20-05 09:54 PM   #2 
  - Thank you for your story...  Barak And Roll   Jul-20-05 09:55 PM   #3 
  - Welcome to DU, Barak and Roll.  SCRUBDASHRUB   Jul-20-05 09:55 PM   #4 
  - I'm glad I'm not the only one deciding to share  LizMoonstar   Jul-20-05 10:32 PM   #20 
  - Matt, thank you for sharing that  LynzM   Jul-20-05 09:55 PM   #5 
  - Thank you for sharing this.  Fenris   Jul-20-05 09:56 PM   #6 
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  - "Life isnt all John 3:16 and perfect"  sleipnir   Jul-20-05 10:00 PM   #8 
  - That was hard to read. It must have been a killer to live through.  Commie Pinko Dirtbag   Jul-20-05 10:01 PM   #9 
  - Thanks for sharing.  bigwillq   Jul-20-05 10:03 PM   #10 
  - a heartfelt tale  musette_sf   Jul-20-05 10:03 PM   #11 
  - I also thank you  oldlady   Jul-20-05 10:05 PM   #12 
  - You are one hell of a guy  ohio_liberal   Jul-20-05 10:10 PM   #13 
  - Thank you for sharing this with us  KitchenWitch   Jul-20-05 10:12 PM   #14 
  - She was lucky to have you there for her Matt.  vickiss   Jul-20-05 10:15 PM   #15 
  - it is so easy to 'judge'  Bluerthanblue   Jul-20-05 10:19 PM   #16 
  - Thank you for sharing your experience in a wonderful post.  PartyPooper   Jul-20-05 10:21 PM   #17 
  - That was a touching story Matt.  Bullwinkle925   Jul-20-05 10:24 PM   #18 
  - I DO have a 10 year-old child and an estranged girlfriend  Nevernose   Jul-20-05 10:28 PM   #19 
  - Wow.  MinneapolisMatt   Jul-20-05 10:57 PM   #23 
  - Aww Nevernose  FreedomAngel82   Jul-21-05 01:26 AM   #32 
  - Personal stories such as these never fail to touch me and reinforce  merbex   Jul-20-05 10:43 PM   #21 
  - Thank you. Many of us carry such stories.  progressoid   Jul-20-05 10:56 PM   #22 
  - Thank you for sharing your story, Matt  prairierose   Jul-20-05 10:58 PM   #24 
  - I'm actually sitting here a bit teary-eyed.  MinneapolisMatt   Jul-20-05 11:03 PM   #25 
  - Aww  FreedomAngel82   Jul-21-05 01:01 AM   #27 
  - Thanks for sharing your story Matt! That was a tough situation for both  Pachamama   Jul-21-05 01:11 AM   #28 
  - It's nice to hear from the perspective of a guy  cynatnite   Jul-21-05 01:21 AM   #30 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-21-05 01:26 AM   #31 
  - Uh what the fuck are you reading???  FreedomAngel82   Jul-21-05 01:29 AM   #34 
  - enthusiasm...  hexola   Jul-21-05 01:33 AM   #35 
     - LOL  FreedomAngel82   Jul-21-05 01:34 AM   #36 
     - What????  bling bling   Jul-21-05 01:45 AM   #39 
        - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-21-05 08:20 AM   #61 
        - My old girlfriend had an abortion without telling me...  hexola   Jul-21-05 08:47 AM   #68 
           - And when you can carry a fetus in YOUR body it will be YOUR choice.  mondo joe   Jul-21-05 08:54 AM   #71 
           - Sorry buddy.... you're way out of line here.  Misunderestimator   Jul-21-05 09:09 AM   #79 
           - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-21-05 01:22 PM   #106 
  - Well he's got my sympathy!  spuddonna   Jul-21-05 01:39 AM   #37 
  - Teenage College students?  hexola   Jul-21-05 01:48 AM   #41 
  - I was a female college student  Modem Butterfly   Jul-21-05 07:50 AM   #52 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-21-05 09:01 AM   #74 
  - How fascinating that you're concerned about the woman's number  missb   Jul-21-05 09:20 AM   #85 
  - What exactly are you trying to say?  spuddonna   Jul-21-05 02:02 PM   #109 
  - I got pregnant while I was on the pill  Modem Butterfly   Jul-21-05 07:48 AM   #51 
     - Me too  bicentennial_baby   Jul-21-05 08:14 AM   #59 
        - Both of my stepsons...  hexola   Jul-21-05 09:21 AM   #87 
           - That was her choice alone, and she's welcome to it  Modem Butterfly   Jul-21-05 09:27 AM   #93 
  - Fate is not a universally accepted concept  wader   Jul-21-05 01:47 AM   #40 
  - The initial post makes a piss poor case for abortion...  hexola   Jul-21-05 01:53 AM   #44 
  - Excuse me, Your Holiness, but  ccbombs   Jul-21-05 08:24 AM   #62 
  - I dont think Ive told anyone "what to do"  hexola   Jul-21-05 08:50 AM   #69 
     - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-21-05 09:13 AM   #81 
        - Thank you  missb   Jul-21-05 09:20 AM   #86 
  - Your idea that pregnancy is fate might explain the many accidents in your  mondo joe   Jul-21-05 08:45 AM   #67 
  - I think It makes the case  Norquist Nemesis   Jul-21-05 09:07 AM   #78 
  - welcome to DU wader ...  PittLib   Jul-21-05 04:02 AM   #45 
     - Greetings PittLib  wader   Jul-21-05 09:22 AM   #89 
        - Amen to that ...  PittLib   Jul-21-05 01:04 PM   #104 
  - How nice for you.  tofunut   Jul-21-05 01:50 AM   #43 
  - No, I do not suggest any change in the law...  hexola   Jul-21-05 09:06 AM   #76 
     - Gotta PUNISH! Gotta PUNISH! (UPDATED)  Commie Pinko Dirtbag   Jul-21-05 09:23 AM   #91 
  - Keep your vitriol to yourself.  KyndCulture   Jul-21-05 04:50 AM   #47 
  - Not everyone feels the same way you do  Modem Butterfly   Jul-21-05 07:46 AM   #50 
  - I agree, Modem Butterfly. In reference to the first issue in your post...  I Have A Dream   Jul-21-05 11:29 AM   #102 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-21-05 07:57 AM   #54 
  - STEP-children...  hexola   Jul-21-05 08:56 AM   #72 
     - Yep, life just takes care of everything. Don't worry, have children.  Inland   Jul-21-05 09:54 AM   #97 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-21-05 08:06 AM   #55 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-21-05 08:16 AM   #60 
  - STEP children...  hexola   Jul-21-05 09:12 AM   #80 
     - None, I guess, other than the one aborted by your ex.  mondo joe   Jul-21-05 09:13 AM   #82 
     - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-21-05 09:19 AM   #84 
        - Or maybe she just didn't want to have a baby. You know - the thing you  mondo joe   Jul-21-05 09:22 AM   #90 
        - She may have not wanted to have YOUR baby;  Lars39   Jul-21-05 09:31 AM   #94 
        - Smart lady. (nt)  Commie Pinko Dirtbag   Jul-21-05 09:32 AM   #95 
        - WTF? "this baby may have come out of the shoot a differnet color"  Misunderestimator   Jul-21-05 10:03 AM   #98 
        - just saying...  hexola   Jul-21-05 10:14 AM   #99 
           - No, that's not what you said... you said what you said...  Misunderestimator   Jul-21-05 10:15 AM   #100 
        - Hexola---you should retract your sick comments  ultraist   Jul-21-05 01:18 PM   #105 
           - My step children are in no way resented...  hexola   Jul-21-05 01:47 PM   #108 
     - "No mistakes of my own"  SemiCharmedQuark   Jul-21-05 09:44 AM   #96 
  - You don't know what a load of Crap really is...  bleedingheart   Jul-21-05 08:34 AM   #64 
  - Sacrilege! J'Accuse!!!!  ArkDem   Jul-21-05 08:52 AM   #70 
  - Did you even read his post?  progmom   Jul-21-05 09:17 AM   #83 
  - Almost 20 yrs after my abortion at age 16...  loudestchick   Jul-21-05 09:26 AM   #92 
  - Thank you for sharing this!  spuddonna   Jul-21-05 01:28 AM   #33 
  - Thanks Matt and Nevernose ...  PittLib   Jul-21-05 01:41 AM   #38 
  - If and when..  annabanana   Jul-21-05 08:09 AM   #57 
     - Thanks annabanana ... I hope so.  PittLib   Jul-21-05 12:54 PM   #103 
  - Thank you for sharing your experience.  Swamp Rat   Jul-21-05 01:49 AM   #42 
  - Matt, thank you. This is my story. You are not alone!  KyndCulture   Jul-21-05 04:35 AM   #46 
  - Thank you for sharing that story, KyndCulture.  nicknameless   Jul-21-05 07:44 PM   #110 
  - hugs to you, honey. hugs to all three of you in this case.  roguevalley   Jul-21-05 04:58 AM   #48 
  - I had a similar experience to the first half of your story  YOY   Jul-21-05 07:38 AM   #49 
  - Thank you for letting us in  annabanana   Jul-21-05 07:55 AM   #53 
  - I took a friend to the clinic when we were in college  noonwitch   Jul-21-05 08:06 AM   #56 
  - Thanks Matt...  Triana   Jul-21-05 08:11 AM   #58 
  - Thanks for sharing  bleedingheart   Jul-21-05 08:30 AM   #63 
  - Thanks matt and keep pucning  DanCa   Jul-21-05 08:38 AM   #65 
  - Thanks for sharing this.  borlis   Jul-21-05 08:42 AM   #66 
  - Thank you for sharing that....  emdee   Jul-21-05 09:00 AM   #73 
  - Great post.  livinginphotographs   Jul-21-05 09:02 AM   #75 
  - I wish we were a choir here. We should stand together on this. Thank you  Misunderestimator   Jul-21-05 09:07 AM   #77 
  - A letter like yours would make an excellent LTTE, but of course,  Ilsa   Jul-21-05 09:21 AM   #88 
  - Here's a hug for you Matt, and thanks for sharing your story  catzies   Jul-21-05 10:23 AM   #101 
  - Thank you for sharing your story.  bloom   Jul-21-05 01:30 PM   #107 
  - Thank you so much for helping to put a personal face on this issue.  nicknameless   Jul-21-05 08:15 PM   #111 
 

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