Reply #8: Don't know about anybody else, but

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I actually tried to become bisexual once in my "experimentation" days - it was fashionable in my circle and I thought it would be fun. So I slept with a woman.

It was the most boring experience of my life. She was cute and everything, but she did absolutely nothing for me. It was like being with a man (I'm a straight woman) who I wasn't attracted to, and who didn't have the right parts. After the experience, I realized that although I find some women asthetically appealing, I had never met even one who really "got me going" (so to speak) the way some men had. Don't know how to describe it better than that - but it's like the difference between mild attraction to a pretty face and raging lust. I just don't have it for women.

It was that experience that completely convinced me that sexual orientation was not a "choice". If I couldn't "choose" to be attracted to women, there was no reason to think that lesbians could "choose" to suddenly like men. Or that gay men could "choose" to be attracted to women.

And no, there was never any point in my formative years where I made a choice to like little boys. My earliest crush was at age 8 or 9, and it was on a boy in my grade. I didn't give much thought to whether I really liked little girls or little boys and what the ramifications of each of those "choices" might be - I just thought he was cute.

I think this whole choice argument is crap. I always wonder if the people who shout the loudest about homosexuality being a choice are the ones who wish that it really was so that they really could be "normal" (i.e., not just pretending to be hetero).