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smoogatz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-23-05 06:52 PM
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Question for All DUers re Sexual Orientation and "choice"
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I've been pondering the fundie postulation that sexual orientation involves choice: that is, that we choose which gender we're attracted to. I've done a bit of personal memory sifting and honestly, I can't remember having made any such decision--but I do remember quite clearly getting in trouble in the first grade for drawing pictures of naked girls. My default setting, if there is such a thing, is apparently set to "breeder." Which leads me to wonder what other folks' experience is, and whether the fundies believe that everyone's default setting is "straight," or whether they think everyone, at some point, makes a "choice" about which gender they want to have sex with. Have you or anyone you know chosen to be gay? Or straight? What's the basis for the fundies' belief that sexual orientation is a matter of choice?

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  -Question for All DUers re Sexual Orientation and "choice" smoogatz  Feb-23-05 06:52 PM   #0 
  - I've been attracted to men for as long as I can remember  Straight Shooter   Feb-23-05 06:56 PM   #1 
  - The only people who have  rawtribe   Feb-23-05 06:57 PM   #2 
  - Now THAT is a damned interesting and probably salient point  Eloriel   Feb-23-05 07:13 PM   #16 
  - nothing that simplistic  mairceridwen   Feb-23-05 07:43 PM   #33 
  - it depends on what you mean by choice  mairceridwen   Feb-23-05 07:42 PM   #32 
  - AGREE  Donailin   Feb-23-05 07:52 PM   #34 
  - The fundies are whack.  cat_girl25   Feb-23-05 06:57 PM   #3 
  - is not a choice!  mexicoxpat   Feb-23-05 07:04 PM   #7 
  - Left on!  cat_girl25   Feb-23-05 07:08 PM   #11 
  - You underestimate them. In the absence of choice, the homosexual...  0rganism   Feb-23-05 07:36 PM   #31 
  - Sexuality is a continuum.  porphyrian   Feb-23-05 07:00 PM   #4 
  - yep n/t  Swamp Rat   Feb-23-05 07:09 PM   #13 
  - Exactly.  uppityperson   Feb-23-05 07:10 PM   #14 
  - Agree  serryjw   Feb-23-05 08:48 PM   #41 
     - As a former dominatrix and exotic dancer  readmoreoften   Feb-23-05 09:07 PM   #42 
        - That was exactly my point  serryjw   Feb-23-05 09:34 PM   #43 
  - I'm gay and frankly I don't give a flying fuck and refuse to sell out to  nothingshocksmeanymore   Feb-23-05 07:01 PM   #5 
  - I agree wholeheartedly.  readmoreoften   Feb-23-05 07:15 PM   #17 
  - What NSMA said  Solly Mack   Feb-23-05 07:19 PM   #19 
  - Well said.  smoogatz   Feb-23-05 07:21 PM   #20 
  - Just so you are clear, I am not accusing you of that  nothingshocksmeanymore   Feb-23-05 07:25 PM   #25 
     - Thanks.  smoogatz   Feb-23-05 07:29 PM   #28 
  - I love you...  Misunderestimator   Feb-23-05 08:40 PM   #39 
  - If you ask a homophobe "Could you choose to be gay?", they will  karlrschneider   Feb-23-05 07:01 PM   #6 
  - Cognitive dissonance?  Swamp Rat   Feb-23-05 07:11 PM   #15 
     - I know "dissonance" is the usual noun to go with "cognitive", but thought  karlrschneider   Feb-23-05 07:21 PM   #21 
        - Ha!  Swamp Rat   Feb-23-05 07:29 PM   #27 
  - Don't know about anybody else, but  distantearlywarning   Feb-23-05 07:04 PM   #8 
  - I'm gay and I've had sexual experiences with women  readmoreoften   Feb-23-05 08:29 PM   #37 
  - Personally...  Dirty Hippie   Feb-23-05 07:05 PM   #9 
  - I am attracted to both sexes.  HeeBGBz   Feb-23-05 07:05 PM   #10 
  - Here's what I think  Eloriel   Feb-23-05 07:08 PM   #12 
  - hey baby! You just haven't met the right woman yet!  nothingshocksmeanymore   Feb-23-05 07:24 PM   #23 
  - It shouldn't matter if it's a "choice" or not. It's a matter of freedom.  Tierra_y_Libertad   Feb-23-05 07:16 PM   #18 
  - EXACTLY HOW I FEEL.  Faye   Feb-23-05 07:23 PM   #22 
  - word!  mairceridwen   Feb-23-05 07:32 PM   #30 
  - My stepson is gay  Erika   Feb-23-05 07:24 PM   #24 
  - I had "crushes" on both boys and girls, but  libnnc   Feb-23-05 07:26 PM   #26 
  - I don't believe that anything as complicated as sexuality  mairceridwen   Feb-23-05 07:31 PM   #29 
  - Dude, you got in trouble in 1st grade for drawing naked girls, too?  ZombieNixon   Feb-23-05 08:07 PM   #35 
  - Interesting...  ruggerson   Feb-23-05 08:16 PM   #36 
  - But it is already proven and it doesn't work  readmoreoften   Feb-23-05 08:38 PM   #38 
  - My standard reply is: Why do you like icecream  Az   Feb-23-05 08:44 PM   #40 
  - I honestly believe--and mind you, I am  No Exit   Feb-23-05 09:47 PM   #44 
  - I've known a few people who "decided" to experiment, yeah.  Stirk   Feb-23-05 09:53 PM   #45 

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