Reply #216: Men may express opinions, but should stay out of policy making.

[Dora]

If a man doesn't know the woman he's doinking well enough to trust the decision she would make if she became pregnant, then he shouldn't be doinking her.

Early in our dating relationship, Mr. Dora asked me what I would want to do if "we" became pregnant. Well, being a healthy young woman of 23 years at the time, mostly emancipated from my family, and fully cognizant of the possible consequences of sexual intercourse, I told him that I wouldn't have an abortion. I did not know if I would keep the child and raise it or give it up for adoption, but I had no reason good enough to abort a child when I was of sound mind and body.

Boy, he didn't like that. He didn't want to have kids. He wasn't ready to be a father. He was 34 years old at the time (11 years older than me), and he was also separated from his now ex-wife and I think he was afraid of what a pregnancy would do that that sticky wicket.

I told him that I was on the pill, that I didn't WANT to get pregnant, and I wasn't going to TRY to get pregnant, and that if he was really that bothered by my position he should just keep his junk in his pants and leave me alone, because obviously he had business to take care of and I wasn't expecting much out of our relationship anyways.

Twelve years later we're in bliss and expecting our first and perhaps only child. He loves me and is ecstatic about becoming a father. We're both wildly pro-choice, and he's a little bit smarter about trying to impose his opinions on me.