Reply #155: I don't know the details, but

[Yupster]

did you decide to have the kid? or was the decision time past by the time the break up occured?

If it was entirely 100 % your decision to keep the kid, then shouldn't that 100 % decision making authority bring with it the responsibility of dealing with the decision you made?

If the man was gone, and had no part in the decision about whether the kid was born or not, it seems odd he should be expected to bear part of the responsibility for the results of your decision.

Or am I understanding this situation wrong.