Reply #37: Also important

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It is also important that all the people particpating in a sexual act (and I phrase it that way because there may be more than two people engaged in any given sex act) express themselves whenever they wish to stop whatever is going on.

If, after having had sex, one of the persons tells the other "You did things to me that I did not want to have done", and that is the first time he or she has made that known, then I would suggest that no rape has taken place. If, however, during the time people are having sex, one of the persons says "Stop", or otherwise makes it known that s/he does not wish to continue, and the sex continues, then rape has taken place.