CJCRANE
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Tue May-27-08 02:57 PM
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if the adoption agency assumes you know how to bring up kids then I don't think you'd need "training". But I think you would need some information about the kid's ethnic background and be able to pass some of that onto them especially if it was obvious the kid wasn't "white".
IMO the adoptive parents should bring the kid up in their own culture but let the kid know where (s)he's from so they have the choice to learn more if they want to.
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| -Do whites need training before parenting black children? |
BigDaddy44 |
May-27-08 02:23 PM |
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They're fucking PEOPLE for fuck's sake. |
BlooInBloo |
May-27-08 02:25 PM |
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It's not just white folks: |
DuStrange |
May-27-08 02:28 PM |
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No it's not, but the NABSW's point is completely different... |
BlooInBloo |
May-27-08 02:35 PM |
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I don't think that's the issue exactly. |
lwfern |
May-27-08 02:47 PM |
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Great Post. |
Doityourself |
May-27-08 02:54 PM |
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I will amend on one thing... |
BlooInBloo |
May-27-08 03:04 PM |
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No, they're not martians..they can be little devils though..like all kids of all colors.. |
Doityourself |
May-27-08 03:48 PM |
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as the father of an eight year old |
Pat Cakes |
May-28-08 07:31 AM |
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Actually, this is the black folks thinking white folks are the Martians, |
Warpy |
May-27-08 03:04 PM |
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As a woman who married a black man (till death we did part) and had his |
notadmblnd |
May-27-08 04:36 PM |
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Thank you.... |
tidy_bowl |
May-28-08 08:35 AM |
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FYI: A sweeping generalization that prejudges white people. |
happydreams |
May-27-08 04:58 PM |
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Born Free |
May-27-08 06:40 PM |
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Thank you, oh thank you Bloo!! |
Ecumenist |
May-28-08 01:57 AM |
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:) |
BlooInBloo |
May-28-08 03:34 PM |
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If the child is raised in a loving house I don't think race would matter. |
ccharles000 |
May-27-08 02:26 PM |
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Personally I've seen lots of people that need parenting classes |
NYCALIZ |
May-27-08 02:30 PM |
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WTF has happened to common sense? Hello? |
tctctctc |
May-27-08 02:32 PM |
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If it's a little girl, then yes. I've had to go up to complete strangers and ask them what hair |
sinkingfeeling |
May-27-08 02:33 PM |
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I had an employee that adopted a biracial child and she asked me the same thing..what products to |
Doityourself |
May-27-08 02:36 PM |
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I met a lovely woman the last time and she spent about a half hour helping me select |
sinkingfeeling |
May-27-08 03:05 PM |
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suggested training: |
Lance_Boyle |
May-27-08 02:34 PM |
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OK, I'll probably get bashed for this, but here goes |
Goblinmonger |
May-27-08 02:34 PM |
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I think a child that is considered a minority in the dominant culture should be exposed to their |
Doityourself |
May-27-08 02:39 PM |
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Um, I'm not certain, but I'm pretty sure that being black isn't the same as being in hell. |
BlooInBloo |
May-27-08 02:42 PM |
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Depends on which black person you ask...lol |
Doityourself |
May-27-08 02:45 PM |
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No, really? |
Goblinmonger |
May-27-08 02:45 PM |
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Yes, really. |
BlooInBloo |
May-27-08 02:46 PM |
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Good to know that we have true racial equality in the US |
Goblinmonger |
May-27-08 02:47 PM |
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You sound like a 2-dimensional thinker in a 3-dimensional world... |
BlooInBloo |
May-27-08 02:55 PM |
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Please point to me where I said they couldn't be happy. |
Goblinmonger |
May-27-08 03:06 PM |
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I think that's a good point. |
CJCRANE |
May-27-08 03:13 PM |
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Training - no, information - yes nt |
CJCRANE |
May-27-08 02:45 PM |
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interesting distinction |
Goblinmonger |
May-27-08 02:46 PM |
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Kids are kids... |
CJCRANE |
May-27-08 02:57 PM |
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Agree. Adoptive mom of two children. |
kiranon |
May-27-08 03:19 PM |
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I think that ALL parents need training before parenting ANY children |
Freddie Stubbs |
May-27-08 02:49 PM |
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What Freddie said! |
slackmaster |
May-27-08 03:06 PM |
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As opposed to what? Keeping them in foster care? |
mainegreen |
May-27-08 02:53 PM |
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I don't think anyone is saying it's about race..and not being able to adopt because of it n/t |
Doityourself |
May-27-08 02:55 PM |
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As long as it doesn't keep kids in faster care any longer than otherwise would be. |
mainegreen |
May-27-08 02:57 PM |
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I could not adopt |
Mojorabbit |
May-27-08 03:12 PM |
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Well, that sucks! Glad, we've made progress on this issue.. |
Doityourself |
May-27-08 03:50 PM |
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No-as someone who works in the FC system, that's not necessary |
noonwitch |
May-27-08 03:04 PM |
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And besides, this comes down to an issue of what matters more - race/culture |
Indenturedebtor |
May-27-08 03:24 PM |
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There is something wrong viewing and mixing color and culture |
AlphaCentauri |
May-27-08 03:13 PM |
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People, even highly educated people, often make that mistake. |
igil |
May-27-08 09:19 PM |
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if taken too far it can lead to segregation |
AlphaCentauri |
May-28-08 09:38 AM |
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african american because of their shared history in this country have a culture |
lionesspriyanka |
May-27-08 10:10 PM |
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Not just African Americans, Mexican Americans, Cuban Americans, Italians Americans |
AlphaCentauri |
May-28-08 09:45 AM |
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Oh boy |
treestar |
May-27-08 03:14 PM |
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Everyone needs parenting skills taught to them period. |
onehandle |
May-27-08 03:15 PM |
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Who is going to teach them? George Bush's government? |
tritsofme |
May-27-08 10:09 PM |
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That government is just about over. |
onehandle |
May-27-08 11:04 PM |
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Say three Hail Marys and throw salt over your shoulder. |
tritsofme |
May-27-08 11:08 PM |
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What's good for the goose... |
CubicleGuy |
May-27-08 04:21 PM |
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More people need to be trained not to have children in the first place... |
oedura |
May-27-08 04:23 PM |
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i remember this issue being talked about YEARS ago |
orleans |
May-27-08 04:24 PM |
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Here's a position statement from 1972. |
DuStrange |
May-27-08 04:39 PM |
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i remember, as a young teen, wondering how i would feel |
orleans |
May-27-08 04:50 PM |
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Oh, this is such crap. |
deadmessengers |
May-27-08 07:51 PM |
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Great dissection of how this erects barriers to adoption |
Psephos |
May-27-08 08:51 PM |
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"imported Chinese vanity babies" WTF? |
fed_up_mother |
May-27-08 10:03 PM |
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interesting point. |
ulysses |
May-28-08 03:44 PM |
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They lose foster kids for years only to find them dead. |
Fire_Medic_Dave |
May-27-08 08:38 PM |
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when you pretend to be color blind all you are really doing is accepting the normative and |
lionesspriyanka |
May-27-08 10:08 PM |
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I agree with better training of parents for transracial or cross cultural adoption |
fed_up_mother |
May-27-08 10:14 PM |
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No, not training - but |
bitchkitty |
May-27-08 11:23 PM |
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most important is the kids go to a good home |
JI7 |
May-28-08 12:09 AM |
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That is ludicrous |
eilen |
May-28-08 07:39 AM |
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To even suggest such a thing to me.... |
tidy_bowl |
May-28-08 08:31 AM |
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