Reply #44: As a woman who married a black man (till death we did part) and had his

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child, I have to say.. I just don't get it. We knew each other well and outside of coming from different geographic areas of the country, (he was from the south and I'm a northerner) there was very little "culturally" that was different. We ate the same meals (with utensils), slept in a regular bed, practiced the same hygiene rituals (ok, I thought the brushing his teeth in the shower was a little wierd), was raised in the same religion, and had the same morals, values, hopes and dreams as anyone else we've ever know whether they were black, brown, yellow, red, white or blue.

Our son (now 15, despite the loss of his dad),appears so far, to be a healthy, normal teenager. We're not destitute, we don't live in squalor and we speak up when other express their racist views. We've spent a lot of time talking about bigotry and prejudice and how horrible people can be to each other.

So please, could you elaborate on these cultural differences that white people need to be educated on? Oh, and could you also give me some clue as to how I went wrong, because from your post, my son should be angry, confused, isolated, and suffer from poor self esteem.

No, he's not adopted, but I'm a white woman raising a non-white child.