Reply #168: Wow. I'm going to do something for you that you seem incapable of;

[The Doctor.]

I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt.

You obviously are entirely unaware of how badly the court system tends to treat men. I'm quite certain you'd fail the hypocrisy test if I were a woman who said almost exactly the same thing;

"My kids wound up in a trailer park with their coke-addict father."

You'd be gushing with sympathy for me. Don't pretend otherwise, it would insult both of us.

As for the circumstances;

1) Yes, I told my lawyer, the law guardian, and even the judge that she had a drug habit.

They ignored it.

2) I never said there was anything 'wrong' with living in a trailer park. I've lived in one too. The point is that they could be living in their original home in their own rooms rather than having to share one.

You appear to be unaware because in many cases, such an outcome as mine is avoided... when the one with the drug habit is male. The victimhood status of women is enshrined in the system. Men are almost universally seen as 'bad' while women are almost universally treated as victims.

My ex used our children as leverage against me, blocked my access to them for weeks because I asked her to drive the 60 mile round trip once, sicced her boyfriend on me in front of the children, lied to the court, committed perjury, and a handful of other nasty, unreasonable, and unfounded things.

When I sought relief from her treatment, with nothing in front of the female judge but my complaint that I swore to and was willing to defend and/or prove, the Judge SCOLDED ME for wanting a fair driving arrangement, set access, and a neutral location away from the BF.

This is certainly hard for you to believe, because you are entirely unaware of how badly men are treated in the system. Without hundreds of thousands of dollars and a team of lawyers, most men are treated like garbage regardless of the individual circumstances.

I know that a great part of this is due to the many, many asshole men that don't give a damn about their kids. Unfortunately, because those men rarely pay anything, the system is far too willing to brutalize good fathers just for being men. This is why I've said many, many times that few things make me as enraged as deadbeat assholes whose actions indirectly put my kids where they are, with a child for a mother, and an asshole BF she tells them to call 'Papa'.

So please understand; I'm am very sensitive to people's knee-jerk misandry when there may be some doubt. I make no apologies for being so sensitive. I'm a hell of a dad, and my kids and I have been screwed out of so much because of that exact man-hating reflex.