5. i have always parented with "a wall of words". and my boys have been able to follow,
digest and articulate for greater communication.
and then there was the time a toy gun was pointed at me (against the rules) and without a single word it went flying across the room, or the two boys, little, were fighting and i grabbed one and he flew across the room, then grabbed the other and he flew in the other direction.... without a word. (ok, they didnt fly.... )
there is a time and a place in all things. the most effective parent with MY boys is discussion. at 14 and 17 i simply have not had many issues that discussion has not been effective. even when the kids were little.
i do not see anywhere in this article that the woman is suggesting what you did is not effective parenting. i read more in favor of you... the father.... being valuable, per the example you give. so i really do not see, thru your example, how it is not in line with this article.