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History of Feminism

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BainsBane

(53,026 posts)
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 01:45 AM Dec 2013

Ladies, listen up [View all]

Last edited Sat Dec 21, 2013, 04:01 AM - Edit history (1)

No more posts from Jezebel making fun of MRA types. No more making fun of "misandry," the word that even spell check doesn't know. You "in your face feminists" are a royal pain because you make some men feel bad. The most important lesson for being a feminist is that you must never under any circumstances make a man feel bad. So if you post about far right-wing MRA ideas, and some random DUer can't be bothered to read the article or figure out the context and therefore takes it as a condemnation of all men, that's just your fault. Don't recommend threads because if they end up on the home page or greatest page and someone can't be bothered to read the OP or see which group its in, that's all your fault.

So here are the lessons for proper "feminist" etiquette:

Don't broad brush. Now one might think broad brushing means leaping to conclusions about all men are this or that. However, as has been pointed out to we slow learners of HOF, broad brushing also includes any discussion of sexism or patriarchy or any critique of MRA Groups. What is not broadbrushing, however, is when a man uses an example of his ex-girlfriend as evidence of what is wrong with all women. That's okay because he's a guy and you're just a woman.

Stick to the ERA.
Acceptable feminist "tactics" involve limiting your speech to what men find acceptable. So rather than talking about social norms, sexism, and misogyny, keep it simple, focus on the ERA. We were told that at least three times in a recent thread, so we must learn.

Don't talk about rape: Rape is a big bummer, unless of course it's the subject of porn, then it's totally cool. Discussion of real rape bums some guys out. Remember that rape really isn't that big of a deal because it's numbers are in decline. So no "haranging" men about how to prevent rape. The only acceptable rape prevention campaigns are those that lecture women on their behavior. Men have absolutely nothing to do with rape. Rapists have absolutely nothing to do with rape. Rape is entirely a function of how much a woman drinks, what she wears, and where she goes.

Don't talk about violence against women. If you aren't talking about violence against men, you have no right to mention violence period.

If a man claims to be a Democrat, he is your ally. What he says or does is inconsequential. That he claims to be a Democrat is enough. You have no right under any circumstances to suggest anything about him is anything other than perfect.

So final lesson: Focus on the ERA. Be nice. Smile. Don't be overly forceful in stating your opinions. Don't talk about stuff that bums guys out. Work only for those rights men agree are necessary or acceptable. Remember ladies. This isn't the Congo or Saudi Arabia. They let us drive and wear clothing that shows our legs. Remember how lucky you are. Above all, stay in your place.

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Ladies, listen up [View all] BainsBane Dec 2013 OP
oh, dear. . .I never have been able to do what I am told. niyad Dec 2013 #1
That's because BainsBane Dec 2013 #3
and we do not... seabeyond Dec 2013 #16
very good. i read there is no need for feminism. we are beating a dead horse. aspirin between the seabeyond Dec 2013 #2
you forgot flirting. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #4
Not too much BainsBane Dec 2013 #5
boobage is a sure sign of forthcoming fuckage. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #7
--Shakespeare NuclearDem Dec 2013 #10
oh my --George Takei Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #11
Bwahahahahaha ( wipes tears of laughter) ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #6
IKR Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #9
Well I personally feel liberated and justified now. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #8
er, I assume DonCoquixote Dec 2013 #12
Wow. I didn't expect that comparison BainsBane Dec 2013 #13
it was meant as a compliment DonCoquixote Dec 2013 #14
Okay, then I shall take it that way BainsBane Dec 2013 #15
that is to two too cute. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #17
Has a yuiyoshida Dec 2013 #18
Yes, but what if they have an interest in psychology? Do we just sit at their feet, or should Squinch Dec 2013 #19
and an ex girlfriend BainsBane Dec 2013 #21
Bravo!! Sheldon Cooper Dec 2013 #20
LOL! redqueen Dec 2013 #22
A+ :) xulamaude Dec 2013 #23
Oh, and don't forget... smirkymonkey Dec 2013 #24
yes. women that flash the boobs are the true feminists... lol. that is right. we forgot. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #25
That's only acceptable if they are A cup BainsBane Dec 2013 #26
and btw baines. i am no lady. i am all woman. seabeyond Dec 2013 #27
Oh, I know. The word choice was deliberate. BainsBane Dec 2013 #28
thank you. after posting.... and i truly LOVE what i posted and that woman, i thought seabeyond Dec 2013 #29
Post removed Post removed Dec 2013 #30
You have to have some kind of bargain or reward just to act respectful to people..? arcane1 Dec 2013 #31
LOL! *snort* xulamaude Dec 2013 #32
. redqueen Dec 2013 #33
i wanna know.... nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #34
here is what was posted by name removed... boston bean Dec 2013 #35
which duer was this, i wonder, having to create a fake name to face the feminists on du. coward. seabeyond Dec 2013 #36
Who was that masked sock man? BainsBane Dec 2013 #39
Who is this "us" of whom he speaks? ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #37
Actually no, I don't need him BainsBane Dec 2013 #38
he chose the wrong forum to post in geek tragedy Dec 2013 #40
He knew BainsBane Dec 2013 #41
Yeah, Mr. First Post. xulamaude Dec 2013 #42
Not their first post, just the only one using that sock. redqueen Dec 2013 #43
Perhaps I should have said xulamaude Dec 2013 #44
I'm sorry MuseRider Dec 2013 #45
my opinion, if the sock was banned for that one post then the DUer that created that sock Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #46
I agree. n/t MuseRider Dec 2013 #47
That, right there, is one of those furious formerly-privileged guys who is fully aware of his own Squinch Dec 2013 #48
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