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2016 Postmortem

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uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
Sun Aug 14, 2016, 03:27 PM Aug 2016

I was in an abusive relationship [View all]

This was many years ago and the lessons learned have never left me. Trump's strategy reminds me of it.

They say or do something and immediately contradict themself, then get angry at others for not understanding and use that an excuse to lash out. It's always something else's fault for their nasty tantrums. They spread fear and offer a chance to belong to a tribe to deal with those fears.

Spread unreasonable fears, isolate your followers by pretending to be the only one who really understands them, inspire dependence, be unclear and contradictory, then blame everyone else for your own actions.

"You made me act this way". "How can you be so stupid to not understand?" "How dare you question me? ". Etc.

It's appalling to see so many fall for this abusive behavior and I am very glad the press is starting to call him on it.

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I was in an abusive relationship [View all] uppityperson Aug 2016 OP
I'm sorry you went through that. sarae Aug 2016 #1
I wouldn't be surprised if his family tolerates all of that behind closed doors lindysalsagal Aug 2016 #2
Back To The Future 2 Wednesdays Aug 2016 #52
K&R. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2016 #3
... In_The_Wind Aug 2016 #4
I agree with you. fun n serious Aug 2016 #5
Lots of drama in the Trump household vlyons Aug 2016 #43
Very interesting point matt819 Aug 2016 #6
Some would call it toxic bucolic_frolic Aug 2016 #7
I just got out of a 6 month 'relationship' with a narcissist ram2008 Aug 2016 #50
The best thing to do bucolic_frolic Aug 2016 #51
I was raised that way. Google "gaslighting". Crash2Parties Aug 2016 #8
. KMOD Aug 2016 #9
Also was in a 12 year abusive relationship Canoe52 Aug 2016 #10
I was as well -- it was my father. Raine1967 Aug 2016 #11
So sorry you endured that. But you do profile an abuser, and Rump is one. MoonRiver Aug 2016 #12
i agree SheriffBob Aug 2016 #18
Yes. Exactly. nolabear Aug 2016 #13
Sometimes it's not that simple. Francis Booth Aug 2016 #15
No kidding. At some point you don't know there is a world where you can "just leave". Crash2Parties Aug 2016 #16
Oh believe me, I know. I didn't mean to imply it's simple at all, or even possible. nolabear Aug 2016 #19
My mother was also a devout Catholic, and that Francis Booth Aug 2016 #24
Yes, the churches were cruel to women in those situations. nolabear Aug 2016 #28
They didn't have many options. Even their own family Francis Booth Aug 2016 #39
I'm glad. Sometimes that makes all the difference. nolabear Aug 2016 #40
I attended a Catholic college RoBear Aug 2016 #44
Ah, maybe it was an annulment that would have been Francis Booth Aug 2016 #49
yeah RoBear Aug 2016 #53
You have a lovely day too. It was nice chatting. nt Francis Booth Aug 2016 #54
So glad you wrote this electron_blue Aug 2016 #14
I have often thought that the Trumpets are like enablers randr Aug 2016 #17
More than enablers SheriffBob Aug 2016 #20
I was there, also. Kath1 Aug 2016 #21
As I said last weeek in another thread Shankapotomus Aug 2016 #22
domestic abuse survivor here jodymarie aimee Aug 2016 #23
I haven't heard about that. Kath1 Aug 2016 #34
I see it exactly the same way: MrScorpio Aug 2016 #25
That is a great term and explanation. uppityperson Aug 2016 #26
He is a gaslighter extraordinaire. nt tblue37 Aug 2016 #27
If Trump is elected, all of America..... lastlib Aug 2016 #29
Fellow survivor....I completely agree with your assessment. BlancheSplanchnik Aug 2016 #30
I too was in an abusive relationship worstexever Aug 2016 #31
Exactly. Figuring out why it feels so bad can help us not tolerate him but deal with it better uppityperson Aug 2016 #32
I too had a very abusive ex unapatriciated Aug 2016 #33
Agreed. Kath1 Aug 2016 #35
You got that right. amandabeech Aug 2016 #36
I ended up recording some phone conversations so I could check later, which I only did twice uppityperson Aug 2016 #37
I caught on to that late. amandabeech Aug 2016 #38
In another life, I'd call him Adolph. raven mad Aug 2016 #41
You certainly found your wings once you got away from it. I am so glad you survived!! marble falls Aug 2016 #42
I was married to someone who'd been through that. So sorry you had that experience Ken Burch Aug 2016 #45
Wow. rivegauche Aug 2016 #46
Amazing how repetitive and similar the behavior is. NCTraveler Aug 2016 #47
Google " NARCISSISTIC ABUSE SYNDROME " and " NARCISSISTIC ABUSE " NAO Aug 2016 #48
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