and prefer to hang out here, where it's calm and rational.
Dare to question any of the stuff that got dinned into a believer's head when he was a helpless child, he's going to react like you're trying to take his blankie away. One of the main things dinned into their little toddler heads was thou shalt never question any of the stuff that the most timid questions will soon expose as bullshit.
Since questioning threatens them at a deep, irrational level, expecting them to question anything on their own (or appreciate our questions) is simply not reasonable.
The best thing to do is figure out how to live with each other.