Confusing New Age Concepts

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3. I think it is similar to the idealized version of parental love for a small child

That does not mean that their child can do no wrong, and it does not mean that the child will not feel sorrow and shame when they realize the parent has witnessed some very wrong behavior. It means that we (should) want to behave the best we can so as to live up to our parent's ideals.

So in the "life review" that accompanies some people's NDEs, they feel shame over their bad behavior memories even as they are aware of the unconditional love that surrounds them. The wounds that drove them to the bad behavior can then be healed.

But yes, many religious people twist unconditional love into "I can do anything." In the way the the mafia can commit murder and mayhem 6 days/week, go to confession on Sunday and feel like it's all ok.