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Response to MrScorpio (Original post)

Sat Sep 21, 2013, 01:45 AM

6. It is so very hard to see discrimination when you are not a part of it.

I'm white. Female. Now 65 years old.

I have seen the sexism all of my life. 45 years ago a black man I worked with was the only man I've ever known who truly understood what we women were complaining about. Because he'd been enduring the racism his entire life, and he understood.

I know that I probably have no idea how much privilege my white skin gives me. I have noticed, in the past ten years or so, that my age gives me privilege. Whenever I get a trivial traffic stop, I never get a ticket. Yes, I behave politely, but still . . . . I know that to most cops I look like mom, or possibly Grandma (gray hair helps here) and most of them are not going to give a ticket to Mom or Grandma. The most recent incident was several weeks ago. I apparently didn't stop as well as I should have at a stop sign. I dug through my glove compartment looking for registration and insurance information that are standard. I had every single insurance paper dating back to 2007 when I bought this car, but not the most current one. Likewise, I had old registration information, but not the current one. The nice officer told me that having neither was an automatic tow. I kept on searching. He could check and see that my registration really was current, and all the old insurance stuff indicated I probably really was current on that. So he gave me a huge break, and only issued the citation for lack of insurance. I had to go to traffic court a couple of weeks later. The insurance proof was on my kitchen counter. I went to the DMV and got a re-issue of the registration. Were I a different sort of person, younger, of color, a male, I might not have fared as well.

I try very hard every day to treat those who do not look like me with the dignity and respect they deserve.

Oh, and I've been telling my sons (now 30 and 26) for years now, that no matter how well they behave, they will get a ticket in circumstances that I will not. And they are also white, so they don't have the race-whammy against them.

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