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Response to TygrBright (Original post)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 04:05 PM

40. I look at it a little differently ...

... rather than "I can't do this myself, I need some(one)(thing) to (show me/guide me/do it for me etc)" ... as a child from an alcoholic family, I am a control freak. So when I recognized what living with my dad's disease did to me emotionally, and started therapy, I took the phrase "Let Go and Let G*d", and shortened it to just "Let Go" for my own personal use.

So much of my problem has been that I think I have to know/see/decide/own whatever is going on, how other people behave, etc ... that being able to set that down and just let it be has been immensely helpful. It's obvious now when I get in that head space - to try to start controlling things - I get anxious, nasty, headachy and my blood pressure goes up. So I have to stop sometimes, meditate for a few minutes and just repeat to myself over and over "Let Go" until my urge to strangle whatever the situation is, subsides.

So, it doesn't have to be about 'letting some(one)(thing) else fix "it" for you, it can be about just realizing that you yourself don't have to exert control over/react to every situation that enters your sphere.


Just a thought.

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