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[lumberjack_jeff]

7. The court can't mandate anything.

If only one parent wants custody, the judge can't force the other to play along with a shared custody judgment; undoubtedly some douchebags will prefer to be absent. They'll pay child support to the custodial parent instead. What it does is prevent a situation where a parent wants to remain tangibly involved in their child's life and cannot because the judge feels empowered to pick, choose and punish.

Breadwinning isn't in our genes. Each parenting couple is a team. We do what we need to do for the best interest of the family. When that family dissolves, the respective partners shouldn't be forced into the preexisting roles. Not every breadwinner wants that role and certainly would not choose it except as an expression of love for the other partner. Absent that love, it's slavery.

I'm a child of divorce too, and I fully admit that my childhood story affects my grownup attitudes. Suffice to say, my experience shows that mom's aren't always the better suited.