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mopinko

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Tue Sep 6, 2016, 12:20 PM Sep 2016

how old were you when you forgave your parents? [View all]

most of us have wounds from our childhood, i think. probably most of us hated one or both of them as teens.

i know i didnt really make peace w my dad for his failings (he was an alcoholic) until i was 60 yo.

forgave my mom a lot quicker, because it was my dad i was actually pissed at. i just blamed her for him.

how about you?

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For me it was quite the opposite True Dough Sep 2016 #1
Nothing to forgive. femmocrat Sep 2016 #2
For me they need no forgiveness. They loved us, we loved them and now miss them. Fla Dem Sep 2016 #3
did have kids and did my best. mopinko Sep 2016 #6
I can only wish you peace in your heart. Fla Dem Sep 2016 #39
thank you. mopinko Sep 2016 #40
My parents did everything they could for us. cwydro Sep 2016 #4
Wow Sanity Claws Sep 2016 #5
thank you. i had a feeling mopinko Sep 2016 #8
Maybe my situation was different from theirs Sanity Claws Sep 2016 #12
i have been known to say mopinko Sep 2016 #14
Around age 28....when I finally realized I had outgrown.... Tikki Sep 2016 #7
yeah, the clothes thing mopinko Sep 2016 #9
Moms can be short-sited.... Tikki Sep 2016 #13
I never blamed them for anything?? Blue_Tires Sep 2016 #10
i was almost there. mopinko Sep 2016 #11
It was between me and my Mom. And I was in my late twenties. And it was mutual. (n/t) Iggo Sep 2016 #15
speaking of grave-dancing OriginalGeek Sep 2016 #16
I forgave my dad too late to say goodbye. He passed away when I was 24. In_The_Wind Sep 2016 #17
ugh. parental jealousy. mopinko Sep 2016 #18
Becoming a parent yourself gives you a lot more compassionate vision Cairycat Sep 2016 #19
raising my own kids def helped me get it. mopinko Sep 2016 #28
forgive isn't really the word I would use Kali Sep 2016 #20
yeah, the flaw were obvious. mopinko Sep 2016 #29
Insight Marthe48 Sep 2016 #21
that's a heavy load. mopinko Sep 2016 #30
Thanks for saying Marthe48 Sep 2016 #32
My mom had 5 kids between 1948-1960. She could only like 2 at a time likesmountains 52 Sep 2016 #22
Haven't reached that age yet Generic Brad Sep 2016 #23
that makes my brain hurt. mopinko Sep 2016 #35
It was just my father, and it was when I had my first baby. Laffy Kat Sep 2016 #24
grandkids can do that. mopinko Sep 2016 #36
About 30, maybe Bryan Sep 2016 #25
25. progressoid Sep 2016 #26
Late 30s Iris Sep 2016 #27
I'm one of the lucky ones--there was really nothing to forgive. Not saying my childhood was catbyte Sep 2016 #31
You were lucky! Phentex Sep 2016 #34
Never. Is that too soon? And it got worse once I had kids Phentex Sep 2016 #33
well good that you broke the pattern. mopinko Sep 2016 #37
True. I think there are lots of people like me... Phentex Sep 2016 #38
I don't remember. LWolf Sep 2016 #41
it was when i tried to put myself in her shoes. mopinko Sep 2016 #42
Doesn't that help us LWolf Sep 2016 #47
yes it certainly does. mopinko Sep 2016 #48
Never did. Never will. Codeine Sep 2016 #43
oh my. mopinko Sep 2016 #44
Um, never. Tommy_Carcetti Sep 2016 #45
you are a lucky man. mopinko Sep 2016 #46
I never hated my parents handmade34 Sep 2016 #49
Most of the time I'm looking to forgive myself for the way I treated them... NNadir Sep 2016 #50
I am thankful every day for the love of my father. PassingFair Sep 2016 #51
It happened after they died. rivegauche Sep 2016 #52
too bad it was too late. mopinko Sep 2016 #53
I had great parents. They were flawed, but loved me. panader0 Sep 2016 #54
I'll say what panaderO says, "great parents ... flawed, but loved me." UTUSN Sep 2016 #56
It wasn't so much Jamaal510 Sep 2016 #55
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