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Neoma

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Thu May 9, 2013, 12:00 PM

May 2013

A piece of advice: don't go looking for women for the romantic part, it won't last long. Friendship lasts longer, and you'll be respecting her a lot better by going that route. A true friend accepts you for who you are, so don't obsess to the negative crap so much. You'll get help when you need it, but don't let a person try to fix you. It's controlling and demeaning, and you don't need that.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] Locut0s May 2013 OP

Use the talents listed Betsy Ross May 2013 #1

Hah my father has suggested I should work out a comedy routine and try it out.. Locut0s May 2013 #2

Write a humerous book - then self-publish on somplace like Amazon. Sell at a low patricia92243 May 2013 #85

Don't give up hope..I firmly believe there is someone for everyone HipChick May 2013 #3

i have a soulmate out there somewhere datasuspect May 2013 #6

I'm not a relationship expert, but I would have to guess Dash87 May 2013 #4

Yeah that would indeed by the biggest reason lol. I need to fix... Locut0s May 2013 #24

It's always easy to fix people's problems Victor_c3 May 2013 #53

"I need to fix my depression and anxiety issues first I think." That's probably the biggest mistake Cal33 May 2013 #67

Probably true, I just need to fucking live!... Locut0s May 2013 #77

Yes. Just jump in and live. As for mistakes and failures, we all make them. They Cal33 May 2013 #80

as far as i know talors511 May 2013 #49

bro: datasuspect May 2013 #5

Yes I think I do need to concentrate on myself first. Thanks. Locut0s May 2013 #25

:thumbsup: Heidi May 2013 #54

Of course! Have you tried joining any groups that include women? riderinthestorm May 2013 #7

This is true. Though my interests are mainly cerebral or nerdy which makes it a little harder... Locut0s May 2013 #26

I met my wife playing D and D sigmasix May 2013 #48

I'd say work on your other issues first Lydia Leftcoast May 2013 #8

Thanks for the reply... Locut0s May 2013 #27

Sure. Neoma May 2013 #9

Thanks! Indeed what I'm looking for really is a friend. Someone I can share my life with... Locut0s May 2013 #28

You do realize... Wait Wut May 2013 #10

Right now it's not financially feasible... Locut0s May 2013 #29

Go to Lisdoonvarna County Clare Ireland in September. Denis 11 May 2013 #11

Find other people of a like mind... Taverner May 2013 #12

C'mon, girls! He's Canadian! KamaAina May 2013 #13

LOL a marriage of convenience to get an American into Canada... Locut0s May 2013 #30

Alas, I'm not sure anyone would be interested my plodding USA self KamaAina May 2013 #37

I'm a 28-year-old dude, never been in a relationship, not a virgin but have little experience. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #14

I'm gonna be a little blunt but (I hope) helpful. noamnety May 2013 #15

Don't worry you weren't blunt... Locut0s May 2013 #31

no, it isn't a natural part of growing up RILib May 2013 #52

Yes, there's definitely hope. But you have to be willing to be creative and take chances. nolabear May 2013 #16

Thanks. Taking chances has never been my strong suit. I need to remedy this. nt. Locut0s May 2013 #32

Try making friends with some women. Just get to know them. LiberalEsto May 2013 #17

Indeed I need to get out and start making friends first and foremost... Locut0s May 2013 #33

OK, Dude, you've heard from most of the Moondog May 2013 #18

Good advice right there. Even assuming #1 isn't feasible, the rest is pretty solid. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #19

Well that is certainly telling it like it is! n/t Sekhmets Daughter May 2013 #21

Your advise isn't harsh at all... Locut0s May 2013 #34

Wow, you seem to have many of the same problems and advantages I have RFKHumphreyObama May 2013 #20

Thanks, you too :D Locut0s May 2013 #35

I sent you a PM tabbycat31 May 2013 #22

Of course there's hope LadyHawkAZ May 2013 #23

Thank you. I need to keep on trucking on as they say... Locut0s May 2013 #36

Depression and anxiety can't leave with a snap of your fingers. Neoma May 2013 #38

Thank you for that Neoma... Locut0s May 2013 #39

Finding companionship can be part of that LadyHawkAZ May 2013 #45

in addition to the good advice you've gotten here... steve2470 May 2013 #40

Yes I'm trying to set up a meeting with a therapist again... Locut0s May 2013 #41

Try a Google search for Vancouver + mental health + clinic or some combo like that steve2470 May 2013 #42

The pills stop you from sliding deeper into depression, but to really get over it Lydia Leftcoast May 2013 #43

exactly steve2470 May 2013 #44

i choose to call your anxiety and depression sensitivity . olddots May 2013 #46

On that "excellent sense of humor" thing... Spitfire of ATJ May 2013 #47

Good thing you told me, I was just about to mail a few off... Locut0s May 2013 #60

If it were not for the problem of disease and exploitation RILib May 2013 #50

You want me to re-evaluate myself downward? Locut0s May 2013 #56

I'm going to say this. d_r May 2013 #51

Thanks. I'm not very good at just being, though I wish to god I was... Locut0s May 2013 #57

Hire a pro for your first time. Maybe the first few times. alphafemale May 2013 #55

Wow. Not to be sexist but I'm surprised a woman would suggest this... Locut0s May 2013 #59

I've surprised many. alphafemale May 2013 #61

**Not legal in Vegas!!!!** LadyHawkAZ May 2013 #72

Hah lol, you ladies seem to know about this ;) Actually I know... Locut0s May 2013 #76

From someone who spent 10 years in the business there, LadyHawkAZ May 2013 #91

“Hope is the most exciting thing in life and if you honestly believe that love is out there, Tuesday Afternoon May 2013 #58

... Democracyinkind May 2013 #62

Hah, George's opposite solution. Brilliant. And it may not be far off the truth :P Locut0s May 2013 #64

Many people deal with anxiety and/or depression Nikia May 2013 #63

Thank you. I think meeting new people will actually be part of the soluton... Locut0s May 2013 #65

Not a woman, but of COURSE there is hope for you... Demo_Chris May 2013 #66

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass May 2013 #68

You may be right... nomorenomore08 May 2013 #70

You feel "bitter" and like a loser when your best efforts with women end in failure.... Demo_Chris May 2013 #71

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass May 2013 #78

Nice reply, similar to my own reply below. Locut0s May 2013 #79

Insert amazing title here Demo_Chris May 2013 #92

He doesn't need a gf. He needs to get moving on being an adult. Honeycombe8 May 2013 #82

I don't even know what the hell's right or wrong, good or bad, smart or stupid, anymore... nomorenomore08 May 2013 #69

Actually you are wrong on one account about me... Locut0s May 2013 #75

Confidence breeds confidence so that's a good place to begin. Good hunting! nt Demo_Chris May 2013 #93

You didn't mention your vocation & education. That's important. Honeycombe8 May 2013 #73

Student... Locut0s May 2013 #74

Oh, my. Let me tell you something. Honeycombe8 May 2013 #81

Best advice in this thread, IMO distantearlywarning May 2013 #83

It's fine I need some harshness. Though perhaps I oversold my immaturity... Locut0s May 2013 #87

You are the only one who knows yourself - your level of maturity and competency distantearlywarning May 2013 #89

Oh no I fully agree I need to move out before considering dating... Locut0s May 2013 #90

Thank you. I find that pretty scary to read to tell you the truth, but i know it to be the truth... Locut0s May 2013 #86

I apologize for the preachiness. Honeycombe8 May 2013 #95

Dating Sites - met and married best hubby in the world after 35 years of patricia92243 May 2013 #84

This message was self-deleted by its author darkangel218 May 2013 #88

We have somewhat similar troubles, Locut0s. dawg May 2013 #94

No hope. woolldog May 2013 #96

You sound really nice and interesting. Whisp Nov 2013 #97