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5. I'd tell her that we don't answer the phone or door before 9:00 am or after 5:30 pm. And that you

Thu Dec 20, 2012, 03:56 PM

Dec 2012

will only help her out if it does not interfere with your family time and is convenient.

I went through a situation like this in SoCal with a couple of elderly neighbors. They eventually got the hint.

Good luck.

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Elderly neighbor becoming more and more demanding [View all] Orrex Dec 2012 OP

Just me,...but I'd rather be known as a selfish jerk than a sap! If her requests/demands are not ohiosmith Dec 2012 #1

Should have mentioned the calling Orrex Dec 2012 #2

when she stands in the driveway shouting it's time to turn the hose on her leftyohiolib Dec 2012 #4

I'd tell her that we don't answer the phone or door before 9:00 am or after 5:30 pm. And that you ohiosmith Dec 2012 #5

you are a nice man orrex. i am sorry she is taking advantage of you. seabeyond Dec 2012 #3

You are becoming resentful because it isn't a two way street. IdaBriggs Dec 2012 #6

very wise post NJCher Dec 2012 #34

I was surrounded by cute little old ladies in my neighborhood. Grantuspeace Dec 2012 #7

"Snotty teenagers" made me lol OriginalGeek Dec 2012 #10

Wait her out. rug Dec 2012 #8

Golden Rule: Always Respect Your Elders Forrestted Dec 2012 #9

Since you already know she's going to call LeftofObama Dec 2012 #11

Some good advice here. Set a boundary you can both live with. nolabear Dec 2012 #12

There's a limit, my man, and I think you're WAY past it. trof Dec 2012 #13

ahhh Trof...you KNOW there are nicer "southern" ways of saying no. dixiegrrrrl Dec 2012 #26

Wait a second... pipi_k Dec 2012 #14

Set boundaries NV Whino Dec 2012 #15

Get her some brochures Mr.Bill Dec 2012 #16

I live in a Condo........... mrmpa Dec 2012 #17

Okay, time draw the line, regardless of her age... MrMickeysMom Dec 2012 #18

What mrmpa said KT2000 Dec 2012 #19

Tell her you're having an orgy this weekend and she's invited Major Nikon Dec 2012 #20

And what if she smiles and asks, "What time, sweetie?". Ikonoklast Dec 2012 #39

You deal the cards, you takes yer chances Major Nikon Dec 2012 #40

Tonight she called... Orrex Dec 2012 #21

Sounds like she's lonely Frosty1 Dec 2012 #43

Well.... merrily Dec 2012 #22

Message auto-removed Name removed May 2015 #45

Do you know any of her family? LWolf Dec 2012 #23

A good thought, but no Orrex Dec 2012 #27

i was thinking she sounds lonely orleans Dec 2012 #32

Tell you what: *You* invite her over. Orrex Dec 2012 #36

lol! okay--so maybe i'm wrong. n/t orleans Dec 2012 #42

Just say no. You can thank Nancy Reagan for that. nt valerief Dec 2012 #24

Every time she calls, ask her to do a little favor for you. Kaleva Dec 2012 #25

Maybe call her on Sunday night and tell her you're planning your week. Arugula Latte Dec 2012 #28

I didn't realize you were that old! Which retirement home do you and your wife live in?? madinmaryland Dec 2012 #29

We're at the Tranquil Rest of Why Don't You Shut The Hell Up! Orrex Dec 2012 #38

My sister went through what you're describing. crim son Dec 2012 #30

Well first off remember that you are not Rex Dec 2012 #31

tell her a price per month to continue as gofer person or she has to stop asking 2Design Dec 2012 #33

Helping people who are unable to help themselves is the highest moral calling in life Taitertots Dec 2012 #35

I've done enough already that even if I never speak to her again, I won't qualify as a selfish jerk Orrex Dec 2012 #37

Just say no. kwassa Dec 2012 #41

I feel your pain animal-girl Dec 2012 #44

Just wanted to check in and say that she's still going strong with the daily demands Orrex May 2021 #46