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In_The_Wind

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17. It isn't really emotional withdrawal.

Wed Dec 5, 2012, 09:22 AM

Dec 2012

The passive aggressive is fighting for some degree of control. Obviously they cannot control what is truly troubling them. They deliberately do things that are aggressive. If they are allowed to get away with their behavior they feel successful. If confronted they still get attention. It's a win-win for the suffering passive aggressive person.

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Why is Passive Aggressive a bad thing? [View all] Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 OP

It solves nothing? Chan790 Dec 2012 #1

Erm...sounds like bullying. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #2

So is passive-aggressiveness. Chan790 Dec 2012 #5

But, what if they are victims or innocent parties? Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #6

They have learned a maladaptive method of coping siligut Dec 2012 #29

Because it's dishonest and manipulative MrScorpio Dec 2012 #3

What if the passive-aggressive behavior is a response to a situation that autocratically is Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #4

I'm not talking to you anymore. nt MrScorpio Dec 2012 #7

It's working! You win! You win! Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #8

The Art of War teaches to attack an opponent's weakness through asymmetrical combat. Chan790 Dec 2012 #9

I'm the opposite. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #10

Um, you have no idea, do you? Flaxbee Dec 2012 #11

Your father would be in the position of power, so I could absolutely understand Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #12

It spirals out of control. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #13

The key is to determine what makes them passive aggressive. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #14

Check out Meta. HappyMe Dec 2012 #15

Now I'm confused. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #16

Here you go -- HappyMe Dec 2012 #18

Tres Wonderful. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #20

Passive resistance is cool MrScorpio Dec 2012 #24

... Kali Dec 2012 #26

No resistance libodem Dec 2012 #38

I couldn't think last night libodem Dec 2012 #47

It isn't really emotional withdrawal. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #17

Well put. That puts the whole passive-aggressive thing in perspective. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #19

it is cowardly, dishonest and purposely has no intent to resolve. nt seabeyond Dec 2012 #21

It's deemed cowardly, sneaky, etc because folks using it are hard to identify HereSince1628 Dec 2012 #22

I wonder if you're making the same mistake I did. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #23

I checked out that link, no I don't think I confused it. HereSince1628 Dec 2012 #25

Good question. Overtly aggressive can be harmfull in many ways. elleng Dec 2012 #27

I have to see more examples of passive aggressive behavior before I'm Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #28

It all comes down to anger TM99 Dec 2012 #30

This I found interesting: Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #31

There should be more to good therapy than just 'talking' TM99 Dec 2012 #40

Keep all of that in mind, because some day soon I will be asking for support Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #42

Will do. nt TM99 Dec 2012 #44

Such a good libodem Dec 2012 #46

This message was self-deleted by its author eugene jones Dec 2012 #32

Truly would be a different world if we ALL operated under these rules. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #33

This message was self-deleted by its author eugene jones Dec 2012 #34

I had those issues. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #35

If I did that, I'd get the shit beat out of me Taverner Dec 2012 #37

Because marriage therapists gotta work too... Taverner Dec 2012 #36

True. One should have the right to withdraw from something rather than fight treestar Dec 2012 #39

Why would you ask that? Tom Ripley Dec 2012 #41

Effective label to stick on opponent, since counter responses have been refined retread Dec 2012 #43

it helps we grownups datasuspect Dec 2012 #45

I'm not half as eightened as I think I am libodem Dec 2012 #48