1. I dunno. My parents were of that generation, but:
My mother and father very visibly made their important decisions together, after discussion. They met in a Baroque choir, so Perry Como and his ilk would have be politely dismissed. They had no interest in knowing the right people or getting into the right clubs, and they studiously ignored pecking orders. "Children should be seen and not heard" was not a philosophy to which my parents subscribed. I was certainly never taught "go along to get along" -- I was taught to speak my mind: if you couldn't tell a person's religion or politics after chatting with that person for hours, that was considered a very boring conversation!