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Phentex

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2. I'd cut her some slack...

Tue Jun 19, 2012, 12:50 PM

Jun 2012

it may not have mattered anyway. Maybe she's the kind who felt no woman would ever be good enough for you, lol.

Funny how my mom was always suspicious of the motive of the current boyfriend until the next one came along. Then the former one became a saint.

When my husband came along, she was against it from the start (for no reason). She asked if I were pregnant. (No.)

In my wedding pictures, she looks like someone just died.

Twenty years later, she thinks he's THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME!

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So, when I got married, my wife didn't change her name and my mom was pissed [View all] LuckyTheDog Jun 2012 OP

Wait for the 20 Sentath Jun 2012 #1

LOL Phentex Jun 2012 #3

Like, say, tell Mom he is changing his name to a hyphenated his-hers one? MADem Jun 2012 #31

I'd cut her some slack... Phentex Jun 2012 #2

My aunt didn't take my uncle's last name when they got married OriginalGeek Jun 2012 #4

I have an uncle that didn't even marry my (aunt) Major Nikon Jun 2012 #5

First... pipi_k Jun 2012 #6

I think the only time I felt bad for someone's last name was in boot camp. Liberal Veteran Jun 2012 #8

I drop it into the conversation casually. Liberal Veteran Jun 2012 #7

I didn't change my name and it will be 35 years in mid-July csziggy Jun 2012 #9

My wife took her last name as her middle name,,, she told me JUST in case,,,,, benld74 Jun 2012 #10

I didn't change my name. My grandma was horrified, didn't think I was "really" married riderinthestorm Jun 2012 #11

Same with me only it's my mother. Still addresses LuckyLib Jun 2012 #21

My family does the same with me TuxedoKat Jun 2012 #22

If you really want to piss her off... Wait Wut Jun 2012 #12

LOLing at your description Pool Hall Ace Jun 2012 #13

Reasons NOT to change your name when married angstlessk Jun 2012 #14

A close friend is going through that now. She has the divorce papers, but not the kcass1954 Jun 2012 #16

When I was divorced in 1990 HeiressofBickworth Jun 2012 #37

Naw...she knows by now that many woman keep their name and why... Tikki Jun 2012 #15

My son and DIL never even told us that she was keeping her maiden name. femmocrat Jun 2012 #17

re-read the OP...that is the reason for the secrets... angstlessk Jun 2012 #18

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass Jun 2012 #29

My kids think its funnier when they call HIM Mr. Riderinthestorm (using my last name)... nt riderinthestorm Jun 2012 #35

Got married in 2000 after living together for 25 years graywarrior Jun 2012 #19

My sister didn't take her husband's last name, which wasn't a big deal... Lucy Goosey Jun 2012 #20

Why should a woman be required to change her identity when she gets married? OrwellwasRight Jun 2012 #23

It's very odd--only in America! (And Britain...and Canada...and a few other odd places). MADem Jun 2012 #32

That makes more sense to me. OrwellwasRight Jun 2012 #36

Does your mom and your wife get along together pretty well? MrScorpio Jun 2012 #24

It's been 19 years and she's your mom. Let it go already! merrily Jun 2012 #25

It's the norm in mainland China aint_no_life_nowhere Jun 2012 #26

Moms get pissed cbrer Jun 2012 #27

I was actually surprised when my daughter took her husband's name. SwissTony Jun 2012 #28

I think you should treat your mom nicely TBF Jun 2012 #30

When I married my husband almost 14 years ago LibertyLover Jun 2012 #33

My grandmom didn't come to my parents' wedding. After 50 years... Patiod Jun 2012 #34

I was denied a marriage certificate because I didn't change my name. Manifestor_of_Light Jun 2012 #38