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Sun Jan 27, 2013, 01:44 PM

49. Guilty of hating when total strangers (mostly men) issue orders to smile. I only talked back

during the time my Dad was gravely ill, and explained, no smiles today- my Dad is suffering greatly and my heart is breaking, and it's jerky to expect anything from strangers. It's a small symptom of some men's entitled attitude. Women only do this with people they know, mostly children. Men do it to attractive women, and it's patronizing. When it;s happened to you a few hundred times, you can weigh in with some understanding of what it feels like. But that's a side conversation that does not define the work of feminists no matter how much you'd like it to. So, again... trivializing the work women do with personal anecdotes of being "butthurt" as you call it.

But come on now, you don't actually belive that's the issue that compels women to march on DC and campaigns for justice. You know better. You are defining and judging feminism based on your personal grievances, and doing so in a way that is asking us to put men's needs first, always. And it's truly bothersome to many men when we don't. A lot more men tell us how to be, than the one gal who didn't want that door opened for her. Like being asked to smile, the demands to "keep sweet" or "be nice" when interacting with men are constant. You probably have no idea how tiresome it is because you've never experienced it. But no, that's not why we march on DC or anything, LOL. If that's what you think, no wonder you think feminism is a joke.

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