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freshwest

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11. The intention of both scenarios is to take sexual advantage of someone unable to give consent...
Sat Jan 12, 2013, 05:08 PM
Jan 2013

There was a rhyme guys joked about:

Candy is dandy, but liquor is quicker.

There is an intent to bribe or otherwise overcome the reasoning of the 'date' to do something not in their best interest - which the person doing the giving knows. And whether it is candy, liquor or a meal - the giver expects sex in return for being so 'generous.'

This has been going on for so long, it's accepted, but it's not funny to be on the receiving end of the coercion. It's sad how many have decided a woman should offer her body for the price of a meal.

Which is what women over the world have been reduced to doing - but we're supposed to be civilized... Some argue that's why there's no such thing as rape in a marriage or with a prostitute. After all, they are 'getting paid,' huh?

It's why 'dutch treat' is my motto, just to eliminate any misunderstanding.

huh? They_Live Jan 2013 #1
It means there are graphic descriptions which could trigger PTSD reactions redqueen Jan 2013 #3
Thank You. They_Live Jan 2013 #5
Yeah, overall, I think this has allowed places like DU to learn appropriate behaviors and norms tavalon Jan 2013 #18
love this man. from my perspective, he hit on all the points so well. nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #2
I fucking LOVE that he called out rape apologists who claim that "sometimes no means yes"... redqueen Jan 2013 #4
yes, that. but also that he flipped it to, and abstinence is not the answer either seabeyond Jan 2013 #6
Shunned and shamed tavalon Jan 2013 #19
I really liked this guy, too deutsey Jan 2013 #17
Just one correction... Kalidurga Jan 2013 #7
Yeah I noticed that mistake too... redqueen Jan 2013 #8
Yeah I didn't think it was a glaring mistake... Kalidurga Jan 2013 #9
The intention of both scenarios is to take sexual advantage of someone unable to give consent... freshwest Jan 2013 #11
a woman should offer her body for the price of a meal. seabeyond Jan 2013 #12
caught it also. and seems like most all over the rapist ass are at too much drinking. seabeyond Jan 2013 #10
K&R SunSeeker Jan 2013 #13
Excellent video, cool young man. Thanks for posting. freshwest Jan 2013 #14
Something I frequently heard as I was growing up in Texas: "Football builds character!" radicalliberal Jan 2013 #15
Here is the article he cites and another detailing harrassment: freshwest Jan 2013 #16
There is one point that I would have phrased differently: redgreenandblue Jan 2013 #20
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