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Mon Mar 4, 2013, 04:00 AM

5. I think this was all too common place in those days.

My mother left my father when I was 2 because of his raging alcoholism. I remember vividly to this day the night b/4 she took me & left...and I was only 2 1/2! I'm 57 now, the same age as Joseph. She was fortunate to have parents who would take us in & the good sense to get out of the situation. It was not easy being a single parent then, nor the child of divorced parents, but I do know it could have been worse. I know this because my husband lived a similar story, difference is he pulled a gun on his alcoholic father when he was 14. Luckily, the alcoholic backed down that night, but kept drinking & making their lives miserable every day. He still suffers from that extremely violent, dysfunctional family experience. Trust & emotional availability are still hard for him. I'm certain I was luckier.

"The Good Ole Days" weren't so good for those who weren't male & white. It should also be noted that this happened in the South, where wife-beating & indentured child slavery were not only accepted, but actually expected if a man was "any kind of man". My husband & I both grew up in the South, & still live here.

This is part of the history of women. If the Republicans think that women are about to give up any of the rights that we fought so hard to attain, then they should get ready for a fierce fight. Birth control is a HUGE factor in this story. My guess is that Mr. Vessels would have been delighted if his wife had been able to attain it in the '50's & this horror would never have happened. This tragic story happened only 45 yrs ago. We have come a long way, baby, but we've still got a long way to go.

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