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uppityperson

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107. Same way I went to court myself from 1000 miles away. I filed through the mail.

Mon Feb 27, 2012, 07:45 PM

Feb 2012

Ended up with the courthouse address in ink in my personal phone book and a template on my computer. I lived nowhere near the court and yet managed to file for many yrs, get the modifications as they were needed as both a custodial and non-custodial parent.

Not through a fax. Not through a lawyer. Not having to pay a thousand dollars a pop to go there. Through the mail. USPS.

Unless, of course, you aren't including me in the "idiots".

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Change On Federal Benefits Payments Could Leave Child Support Debtors With No Income [View all] Purveyor Feb 2012 OP

The solution there is to pay child support currently treestar Feb 2012 #1

+1 mac56 Feb 2012 #3

"Get the child support order modified" Pab Sungenis Feb 2012 #6

+1 proud2BlibKansan Feb 2012 #7

The judges are required to follow a law treestar Feb 2012 #14

So many people do not know or understand the formula thing, different than in the Good Old Days uppityperson Feb 2012 #25

The $50 Minimum Payment relates to "Welfare Pass through" happyslug Feb 2012 #46

My child wasn't on welfare, the father was minimially employed, hence $50 uppityperson Feb 2012 #47

Most Domestic Relations Offices do a $50 in case someone ends up on welfare happyslug Feb 2012 #54

$50? shanti Feb 2012 #95

Knowing how it goes, you probably spent it on something for yourself or your new boyfriend rather uppityperson Feb 2012 #104

right shanti Feb 2012 #94

The Problem is That Many of These Men Can't Afford It On the Road Feb 2012 #21

Men need to be less passive towards the legal system treestar Feb 2012 #37

"The problem is they refuse to go to court and explain" jberryhill Feb 2012 #49

That's another problem - moving treestar Feb 2012 #74

He doesn't have enough money to go to California jberryhill Feb 2012 #78

This particular person is in a real jam treestar Feb 2012 #101

He's been suffering from depression jberryhill Feb 2012 #103

Aust, so not entirely the same. However, My brother was "audited"... TheMadMonk Feb 2012 #58

Amen about putting every red cent through their system treestar Feb 2012 #76

This is so true. Chemisse Feb 2012 #64

Men need to structure their lives differently lark Feb 2012 #97

No offense intended green917 Feb 2012 #59

Many states have net worth caps, making it impossible to have 4k laying around. Sirveri Feb 2012 #61

Don't use a lawyer and go get help from a community organization treestar Feb 2012 #75

And if this father is illiterate? AngryAmish Feb 2012 #90

Then Detroit needs some organization to help people treestar Feb 2012 #100

Detroit is way beyond that kind of thinking. Psephos Feb 2012 #121

But there lies a HUGE problem... SkyDaddy7 Feb 2012 #113

"Child custody & child support decisions should be made by a panel of people who work in family..." uppityperson Feb 2012 #116

Sucks. ForgoTheConsequence Feb 2012 #2

+1 mac56 Feb 2012 #4

Do you know anyone in this situation? proud2BlibKansan Feb 2012 #10

Interesting. ForgoTheConsequence Feb 2012 #13

This. Robb Feb 2012 #15

No - there are no options when you are unemployed and can't find a job proud2BlibKansan Feb 2012 #18

+x100 emilyg Feb 2012 #29

Some of us work 75+ hours a week green917 Feb 2012 #60

I hear your pain brother. When my wife divorced me I negotiated a 50% no fault settlement with my Monk06 Feb 2012 #68

You have both my sympathy for what you've had to go through green917 Feb 2012 #80

Thanks brother and hope your situation improves in the future. Father's parental rights are getting Monk06 Feb 2012 #109

Exactly proud2BlibKansan Feb 2012 #111

They are still adults though who dont deserve to be stepped on by a system thats lacks common sense. cstanleytech Feb 2012 #62

That is what drives me crazy about the current liberalhistorian Feb 2012 #16

I am a Landlord in Baltimore On the Road Feb 2012 #22

I know of few, if any, women who are "better off financially" after a divorce, even with child uppityperson Feb 2012 #26

I am Saying the Mother is Better Off Than the Husband On the Road Feb 2012 #38

"Mother" vs "Husband"? Wow. That was the minimum in AK yrs back. uppityperson Feb 2012 #39

wrong~! shanti Feb 2012 #96

Been there, done that. cstanleytech Feb 2012 #63

My son's wife is. FlaGranny Feb 2012 #65

So, your handyman breaks the law in order to not pay child support??? obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #69

You don't need an attorney to get child support modification done. There are formulas and he can uppityperson Feb 2012 #24

Baloney jberryhill Feb 2012 #79

Baloney back at you. I move away and filed via mail with the state. So did my ex after he moved to uppityperson Feb 2012 #83

Not all states will do that by mail jberryhill Feb 2012 #84

Is Ontario in "the United STATES of America"? uppityperson Feb 2012 #87

That's not true in every state proud2BlibKansan Feb 2012 #112

Which part is not true? thank you. uppityperson Feb 2012 #115

Attorneys are not needed treestar Feb 2012 #36

"Simply take pay stubs or disability determination to the court" jberryhill Feb 2012 #51

Where is that the case? treestar Feb 2012 #73

You obviously have extremely limited experience.... jberryhill Feb 2012 #77

He is in arrears from yrs ago, never paid, and now will go to jail, yet you feel bad because he uppityperson Feb 2012 #86

I'm not sure what you mean by that.... jberryhill Feb 2012 #105

It probably would have been good to file a modification at that time. uppityperson Feb 2012 #106

That case is a good example why people shouldn't wait on modifications..... msanthrope Feb 2012 #88

This is beyond crazy - NEVER go to court on something this important without a lawyer AngryAmish Feb 2012 #91

People saying they can't afford lawyers should just leave the child support order treestar Feb 2012 #99

I do quakerboy Feb 2012 #42

Yep--It's called being a deadbeat parent. He doesn't need a lawyer to modify his child support. msanthrope Feb 2012 #85

Many of the deadbeats cannot get work. existentialist Feb 2012 #11

I have two kids christx30 Feb 2012 #20

Look, I'm gonna give you a bit of advice...... msanthrope Feb 2012 #89

THIS! Earth_First Feb 2012 #114

I feel sorry for all the real people caught in this STUPID dualism of good kid/bad dad saras Feb 2012 #5

+1000 DeSwiss Feb 2012 #8

15 USC 303 existentialist Feb 2012 #9

It isn't always a clear cut issue. schmice Feb 2012 #12

Don't blame the disabled dad. Blame the government McCamy Taylor Feb 2012 #17

SSI can NOT be seized, what is being discussed is SS Disability and other federal benefitsi happyslug Feb 2012 #50

This is bad. varelse Feb 2012 #19

Some of these responses are teabaggeresque at best Umbram Feb 2012 #23

Hearts Umbram!!!!!!! mntleo2 Feb 2012 #71

how can anyone think this would be a good idea? noiretextatique Feb 2012 #27

Another reason for contraception. jbpdx Feb 2012 #28

A child should not have to go without basis needs Thinkingabout Feb 2012 #30

The issue is how the government treats the support payments OnlinePoker Feb 2012 #33

another example of the total bankruptcy of the "nuclear family" concept bread_and_roses Feb 2012 #31

Chile support MJJP21 Feb 2012 #32

Seriously? Paying for housing, food, clothing, expenses for the child doesn't cost much? Seriously? uppityperson Feb 2012 #40

I work two jobs and get child support Marrah_G Feb 2012 #72

Spam deleted by uppityperson (MIR Team) sfghrtjr Feb 2012 #34

I was expecting to see "Fuck the Deadbeats" responses... BiggJawn Feb 2012 #35

I'll say fuck the deadbeat parents, of either sex. Child support is for the child, no matter who uppityperson Feb 2012 #43

Some of you have little inkling of which you speak here, allow me... bobbyblack Feb 2012 #41

Something very similar happened to my brother. Noodleboy13 Feb 2012 #44

Hey, this is a great idea for those behind on student loans, too. woo me with science Feb 2012 #45

I agree, gvt should not garnish ALL of someone's income. uppityperson Feb 2012 #48

+1 JoeyT Feb 2012 #57

If they didn't want that sort of thing to happen, Crunchy Frog Feb 2012 #52

Lets understand the problem, happyslug Feb 2012 #53

Bingo jberryhill Feb 2012 #56

Same way I went to court myself from 1000 miles away. I filed through the mail. uppityperson Feb 2012 #107

Most states that can be done, but some states, especially older cases, NOT True happyslug Feb 2012 #119

A penis is worth a million dollars. boppers Feb 2012 #55

same goes for vaginas SemperEadem Feb 2012 #66

What does marriage have to do with it? boppers Feb 2012 #98

Have you noticed how sexist the resposes are? dotymed Feb 2012 #67

That is not true obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #70

Yes, it is true. Occulus Feb 2012 #82

very true SemperEadem Feb 2012 #108

I started an OP Le Taz Hot Feb 2012 #110

Message deleted by the DU Administrators ELKODCH Feb 2012 #81

this is a bad move shanti Feb 2012 #92

Frankly if I had to choose... Fearless Feb 2012 #93

By no possible logic is this sustainable, your "choice" is not one. It is toxic for society. TheKentuckian Feb 2012 #117

I merely said if I HAD to choose. Fearless Feb 2012 #120

If the non-custodial parent dies of starvation or freezes to death, that doesn't help the kids. Nye Bevan Feb 2012 #102

I have felt for years child support money should be pooled divineorder Feb 2012 #118

"Oh, and before anyone accuses me of being a deadbeat..." LanternWaste Feb 2012 #122