Response to southernyankeebelle (Reply #13)
Sat Jan 12, 2013, 11:58 PM
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16. My sister-in-law is a twin
Not identical though, but she is a twin nonetheless. Her twin died early last year and wow is she ever sad. I traveled all the way to Ireland to see her this past fall and she is still grieving badly despite having 6 kids, who knows how many grand kids, nieces, nephews and other family members close to her.
Sad as all hell IMO.
I know what it is to grieve for a lost sibling having lost my own younger brother to cancer several years ago. He was in his early 40s. What an absolute sad shame that was and no, I'll never over it. Gone too soon in his case.
Luckily, Ms. Brown lived a long and colorful life filled with friends aplenty but not much of anything financially at the end it seems. This makes me feel sad to think that these rather famous twins would end up basically broke at the end of their lives having to rely upon the generosity of others.
This story just proves how much the elderly, the disabled, and others that are in dire need of special care, especially long term care that doesn't cost an arm and and a leg, which most people in this situation cannot afford, simply do not often get it. In the case of Ms. Brown, at least people in San Francisco knew who she was and helped her and she died in a care facility. She was lucky.
As for other people, those not famous nor having lots of friends and family, they sort of end up slipping through the cracks. These are the types that end up being found dead in their home/apt. etc. (if they are lucky enough to even have one in some cases!) and no one even knows they have passed away until something draws attention to the situation. I've seen this myself a few times.
Chronic debilitating disease kills not only the person that has it but all that seem to cross the path of the person that has it as well (i.e. family members specifically if you are lucky enough to have some). This places the person with the health problem in a horrible situation having to hopefully rely on others in their life if they have any. However, being Ms. Brown had Alzheimer's disease she was likely unaware of the reality of her situation I hope.
I hope her sister is able to cope, that is the key to all of it, finding a way to cope which can not be as simple as that one word may sound.
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