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Response to avebury (Reply #96)

Sun Dec 9, 2012, 12:00 PM

97. You are right, when I wrote my comments it was before the articles making this point were posted

It is extremely hard to prove abuse in court, I have spoken to lawyers about this. They say it is more abusive than the actual abuse.

You are right, the articles posted after I made my comments make clear that those are the facts, not what I was going on when I made my first comments. And so yes, she appears to have abandoned him and did not want to be associated with him anymore. If she had not given the baby up for adoption, she would have been liable for child support herself for the rest of the child's life had she given him custody. And she would have then been forced into having a relationship of some kind with him also.

I know a number of women who had abortions for this reason alone. They knew that they could not give their baby up for adoption and they knew that they could not raise a child with their abusive husbands and they knew that giving their child to the abuser would be worse than death. So, is abortion the only answer in these cases?

Is there no option other than abortion for a woman who is pregnant with someone she perceives to be an abuser who will not agree to adoption?

Really, what is the answer in these situations?

And I am sorry, despite all the legal idiocy of it all, it is the mother who produced the child and in this case she clearly demonstrated that she thought strangers would do a better job of the rearing than he would. My guess is that she has some reason to believe this, it is far from being uncommon.

Obviously my opinions are not at all within the range of what is legal. We all read the ruling. These are simply my thoughts/questions and opinions.

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