1: I watched a man take a lead pipe and beat his girlfriend bloody on Dong Ma Lu until the pipe bent. Then when she got the pipe, he ran like a coward. She threw the pipe I him and chased him down the street. They argued for a while more, then walked back down the street as if nothing happened, hand in hand, telling each other how much they "loved" each other.
2: I watched a husband beat his wife from outside my bedroom window, while they child watched and screamed at the top of his lungs.
Sadly, the abuse is two way. Women here are psychologically and emotionally abusive to men, men are physically abusive to women. Women have no problem publicly emasculating men, questioning their manhood and causing public scenes, all because the man did the horrific sin of not buying her something she feels she deserves. TV shows, commercials and movies show women screaming at, belittling and hitting men all the time. I saw one last night when I took my GF to Titanic (a man bought a car. his GF hit him with a frying pan and screaming "you bought yourself a car?" He responded, "but it's for you." She went "really. Now I really love you." No apology for the frying pan) and it made me sick.
Abuse is rampant in China.
Don't tell me bruises count more than other abuse. I dealt with all of his growing up. The bruises healed. The psychological and emotional abuse suffered I suffered from my father and his entire side of the family haunt me even to this day.