4. You're probably right about turning people slowly
Looking back, I was able to convert my wife, who leaned fairly to the right. After the birth of our two daughters, I started pointing to several instances in which the Republicans wanted to control and demean women. Over time, she realized she didn't want our children to grow up in a country awash in legalized misogyny. I guess I need to identify the hot buttons for each person individually and not give up.
Thanks for the thoughts and advice, I was becoming a bit discouraged.