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In reply to the discussion: My co-worker lectured me on rudeness of a large tip [View all]southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)79. Honey you hold your head high and don't be afraid to leave a good tip if you can afford to.
I don't know a waitress that works with my daughter who would feel degraded at all. They aren't working there for fun. I'd say your friend was embrassed because her tip wasn't as big.
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I leave larger than 20% sometimes. Certainly hope I wasn't "Degrading" anyone
Liberal_in_LA
Jul 2012
#2
You weren't. The coworker referenced in the letter made that up to justify her stinginess.
yardwork
Jul 2012
#47
I was standing outside a London hotel, when my cab drove up, an American couple asked to share
Liberal_in_LA
Jul 2012
#102
Agreed. I have never left less than 20% no matter how bad the service was. The main reason
Booster
Jul 2012
#3
You have some excellent karma awaiting you and I applaud your spirit! - n/t
coalition_unwilling
Jul 2012
#21
Definitely a bit easier than 15% or some other fraction. Because 25% is
coalition_unwilling
Jul 2012
#88
I always did too. Then I became a server to earn some extra cash a few years back and then
stevenleser
Jul 2012
#112
I always ask the question of those people: if all servers "got real jobs", who would wait on them?
NYC Liberal
Jul 2012
#23
When I eat out I leave one forth to one third of the bill as a tip. They work hard
roguevalley
Jul 2012
#15
Always leave at least 20%, but often wonder if the server actually gets the full tip.
Fla Dem
Jul 2012
#41
I did 3 months as a waiter nearly 30 years ago and now that I can afford it, 20% is starting.....
Rowdyboy
Jul 2012
#4
We still have a grocery store here (an IGA) but its just cheaper for us with our limited budget
cstanleytech
Jul 2012
#10
If that's the case, then I feel sorry for y'all. The catfish we get around here is delicious.
Arkansas Granny
Jul 2012
#75
In some States, yes, in others no. Here in Oregon, they get minimum wage of $8.80 an hour
Bluenorthwest
Jul 2012
#66
If you should question this, I recently found one answer that will dispel all doubts.
calimary
Jul 2012
#13
I leave a buck in the jar. 2, if my kid has taken her sweet time ordering....
msanthrope
Jul 2012
#61
I think before traveling to any country you should understand tipping policies
LynneSin
Jul 2012
#86
I know someone who was a waitress and worked bar who liked the job but not the pay
Spitfire of ATJ
Jul 2012
#19
If you can't afford 5% more, SHOULD you even be eating out? Kinda ir-re$pon$ible don't you think?
patrice
Jul 2012
#116
My husband's father used to say, "If you can't afford to tip, you can't afford to go out".
canoeist52
Jul 2012
#34
When I heard that someone was claiming the waitress would be denigrated by a large tip, I started to
Texas Lawyer
Jul 2012
#129
Yep, that works, too! (Even though I notice you introduced some advanced cipherin', there.)
Buns_of_Fire
Jul 2012
#67
It is ok to ask fellow diners what might be an appropriate tip. It is not ok to lecture someone
yellowcanine
Jul 2012
#45
My theory: The criticism that people issue at others is most fitting for the person criticizing
KurtNYC
Jul 2012
#46
In many restaurants the servers are required to pass on a percentage of the tips to the kitchen.
yellowcanine
Jul 2012
#115
awesome story. Tip for people staying in hotels - try to find your housekeeper and tip her
Liberal_in_LA
Jul 2012
#100
Honey you hold your head high and don't be afraid to leave a good tip if you can afford to.
southernyankeebelle
Jul 2012
#79
Ask the co-worker what minimum wage is & when was the last time they worked for it. nt
patrice
Jul 2012
#109
Ask the co-worker how many hours s/he has to work to make rent/mortgage or car payment.
patrice
Jul 2012
#113
and what effect that amount of time might have upon quality of family life. nt
patrice
Jul 2012
#114
Ha! Brits are like that too. My cousin, a Londoner, was EMBARASSED by my tipping in a pub.
PassingFair
Jul 2012
#137
As a 61 year old waiter I can't say that I have never had a tip large enough to insult me.
marble falls
Jul 2012
#136
I recently spent several days with girlfriends I've known for >50 years. We were in DC.
mnhtnbb
Jul 2012
#140
My wife and I are big tippers. My uncle, brother, and two good friends - all quite wealthy -
NRaleighLiberal
Jul 2012
#141
I rarely tip below 20% and usually more - and I always try to leave the tip in cash
dflprincess
Jul 2012
#144
20% for waiter/waitress. Almost like a robot. I don't want to think about it at all.
limpyhobbler
Jul 2012
#147