1. Speaking only for myself, I have no wish to ban porn (except for kiddy porn.)
I only wanted to talk about specific types of porn that upset me, because I am a survivor of rape and abuse. Seeing rape and abuse porn being such big sellers, it makes me wonder, do the majority of men get off on violence being done to women? And when I wonder that, I feel less safe, and it triggers my PTSD that is due to having been raped as a child and again as a grown woman (along with other non-sexual assaults.)
I didn't come out in an effort to shame men who like porn. I like porn myself - the type that doesn't involve causing physical harm to women, anyway.
But porn that says it's okay to hit women or cause her severe physical harm....that upsets me and unless people are being deliberately obtuse, they must surely understand why.
I'm not even calling for a ban on rape porn. I'm a supporter of the first amendment, free speech.
I'm asking to be heard. I'm hoping to be understood.
I'm asking whatever men consume violent types of porn, to think about how they would feel if their mothers, daughters, sisters, wives, lovers, were treated like that. Not asking you to stop watching the porn. Just asking you to reflect on it for a little while.
That is all I was trying to do.
And right now I feel like I came out of the porn wars with 3rd degree burns all over me.
And here I go again, I guess, ready to be ridiculed again. But still just pleading for someone to hear me, and to understand.