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steve2470

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16. yes, great advice

Sat Jun 16, 2012, 03:55 PM

Jun 2012

To the OP: If you can, try to get some exercise to get some fresh air and decrease your stress levels. Keeping your stress under control will be essential.

Don't be ashamed to go for counseling. Many many people go these days and it can be invaluable to help you keep your spirits up, keep your perspective, get some emotional support and get through this easier. There are probably people in your county/area who accept patients/clients for free or on a "sliding fee scale", which means your ability to pay. You can always tell the counselor upfront you are now unemployed, so they may not charge you anything. Of course, your current insurance company may also have a list of people that they pay for, subject to a deductible.

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. This has happened to millions of Americans (indeed, other countries as well). You've gotten excellent advice in this thread, and I wish you and your family all the best ! Keep coming back here and report your progress, please.

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I lost my job - Healthcare - unemployment- help [View all] BigD_95 Jun 2012 OP

First, on the emotional/psychological level DavidDvorkin Jun 2012 #1

HEY Skittles Jun 2012 #2

+1,000 freshwest Jun 2012 #5

Have you asked your employer whether you can apply for COBRA after you have been laid off? pnwmom Jun 2012 #3

Yes, he is eligible for COBRA. RebelOne Jun 2012 #34

Hang in there!!! Ednahilda Jun 2012 #4

Don't despair. Baitball Blogger Jun 2012 #6

Here's the CHIP info. rug Jun 2012 #7

COBRA is retroactive. WingDinger Jun 2012 #8

Do you have a link for this? nobodyspecial Jun 2012 #13

COBRA being retroactive? Ruby the Liberal Jun 2012 #14

Not really. It's more complicated than that. nobodyspecial Jun 2012 #17

Thanks for the link Ruby the Liberal Jun 2012 #19

State Unemployment is different than extended unemployment Ruby the Liberal Jun 2012 #9

If you don't have any pre-existing conditions nobodyspecial Jun 2012 #15

The problem is with the ACA protections Ruby the Liberal Jun 2012 #20

The gap also applies to employer plans. Ms. Toad Jun 2012 #24

Thanks, and question: Ruby the Liberal Jun 2012 #26

Generally, with private insurance, you are entirely out of luck. Ms. Toad Jun 2012 #27

WOW. This is incredibly helpful. Ruby the Liberal Jun 2012 #29

You're welcome. Ms. Toad Jun 2012 #31

I would greatly appreciate a link to that Ruby the Liberal Jun 2012 #32

If you're close to Morgantown Pa Politicalboi Jun 2012 #10

You need to take care of yourself first BeyondGeography Jun 2012 #11

That is probably some of the best advice ever given on DU NNN0LHI Jun 2012 #12

yes, great advice steve2470 Jun 2012 #16

Take a deep breath.......... mrmpa Jun 2012 #18

Take a deep breathe, try to put the big worries aside, and enjoy Father's Day. aikoaiko Jun 2012 #21

There is one thing you are doing very wrong at the moment. jeff47 Jun 2012 #22

CHIP is lunasun Jun 2012 #23

The advice about the kids for healthcare is good - Ms. Toad Jun 2012 #25

Thank you all BigD_95 Jun 2012 #28

never believe that *you* failed or that you're not a good dad. the system failed *you*. keep HiPointDem Jun 2012 #30

any more help or ideas for this gentleman ? steve2470 Jun 2012 #33

k&r Liberal_in_LA Jun 2012 #35