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In reply to the discussion: A man keeps giving small presents to my 5-year-old daughter, and it's freaking me out. [View all]Dash87
(3,220 posts)114. There's not enough context, but always trust your instincts.
I find it a bit strange that he only gives gifts to one girl, and not the other (if not at least a little rude). Does the wife come with him when he gives the gifts? Does she give gifts too?
I think this is the type of situation where you be polite, but don't leave her alone with him.
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A man keeps giving small presents to my 5-year-old daughter, and it's freaking me out. [View all]
Liberal_in_LA
Jun 2012
OP
It's not appropriate for him to give her gifts. Tell him and others that it's a rule: no presents!
SharonAnn
Jun 2012
#123
You need a woman to accompany to you to the bookstore - a reverse of that sharia stuff
Liberal_in_LA
Jun 2012
#3
You can buy gifts for your nieces--this old guy is NO RELATION to the little girl.
MADem
Jun 2012
#7
I would bet good money that's what was going on with the old guy kicked out
Honeycombe8
Jun 2012
#72
The old guy in the bookstore was sitting on the floor in the children's area, talking on the phone.
redqueen
Jun 2012
#107
No--I think it reeks of reality. There are a lot of perverts out there. Twenty years ago it
MADem
Jun 2012
#104
" If your gut feeds you racism and sexism, that's on you." That's an . . . interesting spn
4th law of robotics
Jun 2012
#131
Fact: the terms "date rape" and "acquaintance rape" didn't exist about 40 years ago.
raccoon
Jun 2012
#141
There are more cases of workplace discrimination based on race/gender today in the 50s.
4th law of robotics
Jun 2012
#116
I never said we should strive to go back in time. Reading skills are important. nt
Honeycombe8
Jun 2012
#126
No, you just made the absurd claim that because there are more cases now that means
4th law of robotics
Jun 2012
#130
I would be very concerned and would be having conversation with your parents about this. Better
teddy51
Jun 2012
#4
I think those parents should trust their gut. When I go with mine, I'm never wrong. When I ignore
MADem
Jun 2012
#5
that particular issue - this women has genuine reasons to restrict access to her daughter
RainDog
Jun 2012
#11
Ok fine but please don't generalize about grandparents. They are no more inattentive than parents
yellowcanine
Jun 2012
#42
Just a couple of years ago, my granddaughters' ballet recital featured them dancing to
CTyankee
Jun 2012
#52
I find it odd that the gifts are not for both children. That also sends alarms for me. I disagree
IndyJones
Jun 2012
#20
I've known 2-year-olds who would put anything and everything in their mouths
Art_from_Ark
Jun 2012
#32
If the parents ever let the kid out of their sight, they are not doing their job.
xfundy
Jun 2012
#23
You're absolutely correct. I wouldn't give a child a gift without first asking the parents.
IndyJones
Jun 2012
#28
"Not precisely the crown jewels." No but gifts a 5 year old would appreciate more than jewels.
yellowcanine
Jun 2012
#43
A "public letter that tries and convicts?" It's an anonymous letter to an advice columnist.
MADem
Jun 2012
#54
Is the reason she and her hubby are "totally creeped out" because of the gifts? Or is it
Happyhippychick
Jun 2012
#30
I disagree with Prudence's response on this one. The parents should listen to their instincts.
yardwork
Jun 2012
#35
It is simply not appropriate to give gifts to minor children in these cases.
SharonAnn
Jun 2012
#122
I had a discussion with an ex boyfriend about helping a child in distress, say a lost child.
Quantess
Jun 2012
#61
that show "what would you do" put a lost child on the street, crying to people "I'm lost"
Liberal_in_LA
Jun 2012
#78
He is a super nice guy, and very helpful in general. More considerate than most!
Quantess
Jun 2012
#80
its a sad world when any and all acts of kindness is looked upon as sinister and insidious
Sea-Dog
Jun 2012
#65
Why would you single out one of the many gifts the neighbor brought/bought the child?
Honeycombe8
Jun 2012
#87
Your critique of my parenting abilities as detrimental is noted...and rejected...
eek MD
Jun 2012
#140
If this person were a woman it would be a story about the nice woman
4th law of robotics
Jun 2012
#110
Not necessarily wrong. Especially since the gifts are things like feathers and rocks.
alphafemale
Jun 2012
#102
holy shit...one paragraph off a little known advice column and a mob jury gets formed
tjwash
Jun 2012
#103
Tell your parent under no circumstances are your girls allowed to be alone with the neighbors. That
Pisces
Jun 2012
#105
the fact something is given to on exclusively, alone, would have me saying, knock it the fuck off
seabeyond
Jun 2012
#120
He only gives balloons to one child in particular, at the expense of all others...?
LanternWaste
Jun 2012
#148