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Major Nikon

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26. I also see it as a chicken/egg situation
Fri Jun 1, 2012, 05:43 PM
Jun 2012

Which came first, the porn or the unhappiness?

Personally I have no use or desire for porn. However, if I were in an unhappy relationship I might think differently. Saying something is linked does not necessarily mean one thing caused the other.

I also don't really entirely understand how porn could cause such insecurities in the first place. I don't know too many men who can make their dick gyrate, rotate, and vibrate, yet how many men are insecure over their wife's vibrator? If those insecurities are there, they are probably there for other reasons besides porn.

I don't care if my husband watches porn... cynatnite Jun 2012 #1
popcorn JVS Jun 2012 #2
Or more rationally, unhappy relationships are more likely to result in porn use. TheWraith Jun 2012 #3
Agree. I think that's more common than the reverse. randome Jun 2012 #21
"a relationship"? That would depend upon which one. I would guess that the number of patrice Jun 2012 #4
Neutral. HappyMe Jun 2012 #5
that sounds great ManyShadesOf Jun 2012 #43
Title should read, "Men's unhappy relationships linked to Women" cbdo2007 Jun 2012 #6
Anyone who goes through their partner's computer is cthulu2016 Jun 2012 #7
100% Agreed. That was my first reaction as well. Puregonzo1188 Jun 2012 #22
I also see it as a chicken/egg situation Major Nikon Jun 2012 #26
Who gets to define "negative" and "positive"? & Since we are talking about RELATIONSHIP here patrice Jun 2012 #8
Hey ladies: you can't fuck a picture. originalpckelly Jun 2012 #9
Really detrimental to my relationship.... Bennyboy Jun 2012 #10
I'm guessing your relationship had other issues jeff47 Jun 2012 #19
Well yes and no.... Bennyboy Jun 2012 #34
If they were "discovering" it on the partners computer LadyHawkAZ Jun 2012 #11
BING! You win today's Nailed-It prize. nt TheWraith Jun 2012 #12
Some women understand men. sendero Jun 2012 #13
can you break it down for us? ManyShadesOf Jun 2012 #44
Porn is like alcohol. dawg Jun 2012 #14
Totally musiclawyer Jun 2012 #15
Marriages "wrecked by porn" were wrecked by something else jeff47 Jun 2012 #18
aka ManyShadesOf Jun 2012 #45
Nope, but good try trying to blame me. jeff47 Jun 2012 #47
I'm sorry ManyShadesOf Jun 2012 #48
+1. nt riderinthestorm Jun 2012 #16
Why does everyone believe women are the ones "hunting for evidence" of porn use? riderinthestorm Jun 2012 #17
Because when Dr. Phil has an episode about marriages destroyed by porn jeff47 Jun 2012 #20
Dr. Phil? Really? That's Your Source? HangOnKids Jun 2012 #23
"Marriage destroyed by porn" is an extremely common daytime TV episode jeff47 Jun 2012 #25
The cause of porn use kctim Jun 2012 #24
From the article RainDog Jun 2012 #27
Am I the only woman who admits to watching porn? Jennicut Jun 2012 #28
Well, good relationships are about respecting your partner.... Darth_Kitten Jun 2012 #29
No. Warren DeMontague Jun 2012 #41
No, I'll admit it kimi Jun 2012 #49
Is there a place where I could find this porn thing? underpants Jun 2012 #30
Sure. UnrepentantLiberal Jun 2012 #32
I've heard that you can use mythology Jun 2012 #40
Ah, relationships and emotional turmoil... UnrepentantLiberal Jun 2012 #31
I voted "mostly neutral" because its communication and expectations that matter, not porn. Warren DeMontague Jun 2012 #33
I think it depends on the people involved. Ruby the Liberal Jun 2012 #35
"professional acrobat/sex worker" UnrepentantLiberal Jun 2012 #39
I chose none of the above Nevernose Jun 2012 #36
Seems like you either do or don't... Tikki Jun 2012 #37
Let's see, was it the porn, or the alcohol, or the mood swings, or the violent temper... bhikkhu Jun 2012 #38
perhaps they're unhappy ManyShadesOf Jun 2012 #42
It can be addictive Marrah_G Jun 2012 #46
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