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Showing Original Post only (View all)My family is (most likely) in danger of a known sex offender [View all]
Last edited Wed Sep 30, 2015, 06:02 PM - Edit history (3)
ORIGINAL TEXT, PLZ SCROLL BELOW TO READ BETTER DETAILSbasically what can we do if the police have already been called and told that the guy has been hanging out with the family dog and feeding it (likely getting the dog friendly so he can intrude without problems) and the best the police can say is "he's probably trying to help"
it's a bad neighborhood and they just moved in to this house, what can be done now that the police are so flippant about it?
based on light description of the guy from family, my wife looked him up in the registry and gave them the link to the photo and they're not 100 percent sure it's the guy, but hey this offender lives around the corner from them. they have a 9 year old daughter and this is freaking us all out.
UPDATE: BETTER INFORMATION
Sorry for being fast and vague so here's the details.
A week ago, a large bald black man was found outside playing with the family dog of my sister in law's family. He released the dog from it's kennel without meeting them or asking for permission and was just playing with the dog.
I don't know exactly in what order this happened, but he was communicating with the 9 yr old daughter, telling her he would take her to school if she needed it, he was also talking about how he had just gotten out of the hospital and that he suffered from bipolar disorder. The mother and daughter were listening to him, but I guess the mother was too afraid to say anything to this larger man because she was alone with her daughter at the time.
They went inside, locked the doors, called the police and the man eventually left. She did not tell the man she was calling the police.
Keep in mind that she just moved in and is terrified so she may not have acted in the best possible way.
My wife saw this as a red flag and looked up a sex offender registry that revealed a sex offender that lived right around the corner from them. He roughly matched the description that the mother gave us. We're pretty certain it may be him. We sent her the photo and she is certain as well, but his hair is different so that's the only difference here.
The sex offender in question has had indecent liberties with a minor and so you can see the alarm in him asking to take her to school.
Then, TODAY my sister in law and her partner found people food and water bottles in the kennel where the dog resides, also the kennel had been moved. This suggests that someone was camping out with the dog in order to get friendly with it.
Sorry again for the lack of details in the initial post, we're all a little frantic about this right now.
EDIT: title edit because many people were offended by such an absolute statement that seems to convict someone without proof. still, no one is being named or directly accused in this post. rest easy and thank you for your concerns.
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I don't know the answer, but someone locally - police, library, lawyer - does
No Vested Interest
Sep 2015
#21
This may sound like the craziest advice but it will work wonders for confidence.
snagglepuss
Sep 2015
#88
Restraining orders are worthless. You have to be prepared to protect yourself and others. nt
alphafemale
Sep 2015
#47
What was the offense? Was there no notification that he was going to move there?
Brickbat
Sep 2015
#3
I worked 2 years teaching math and science to Juvenile sexual offenders
Ichingcarpenter
Sep 2015
#13
Residency restrictions as far as schools are concerned only deal with K-12, preschools, and daycares
NuclearDem
Sep 2015
#39
I'm confused. You say the family is not 100% certain if the sex offender is this guy?. . .
Journeyman
Sep 2015
#18
whether or not he is the same guy- he is dead wrong. she should introduce herself and explain that
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#45
may I suggest perusing Captain Awkward and searching "personal safety" for scripts?
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#57
of course! it seemed to me that she was a bit too shocked to react in the moment....
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#68
Hey I am not trying to be funny , but a long time ago I had a girlfriend who had some
Person 2713
Sep 2015
#23
they need to have a talk with the daughter about how to deal with strangers and keeping boundaries
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#29
I would have interrupted and cheerfully asked her to go inside, introduce myself and get his name...
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#43
I'm glad you posted this and didn't let the person who said this get away with it
davidpdx
Sep 2015
#107
no, i thought the bi-polar thing was evidence of MORE poor boundaries and impulse control.
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#64
I'm confused where the information of him being out of the hospital for whatever is coming from.
cwydro
Sep 2015
#112
Unfortunately this woman is a bit scared. Whether she says something with her phone in hand or
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#125
on top of that move the dog inside & don't leave a dog outside when you're not home.
Sunlei
Sep 2015
#75
How about direct confrontation. Trespass on my property again and I will call the police. I know you
Pisces
Sep 2015
#78
He should be afraid she doesn't kill him when he next steps foot on her property. Predators
Pisces
Sep 2015
#113
You are absolutely correct to be extremely cautious and protective. While it's all sunshine and
underahedgerow
Sep 2015
#135
You dont think offering a stranger's 9 year old rides to school is concerning behavior?
Warren DeMontague
Sep 2015
#96
I think you're wise to trust your gut, especially on those red flags.
Warren DeMontague
Sep 2015
#95
No to the "thanks but" yes to "nope, it would not be okay for you to do that, please don't approach
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#121
Stop trying to bait him into a witch hunt already. Transparent fake concern.
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#126
God forbid you be kind to someone who has good reason to worry about their niece and SIL.
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#129