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Response to The Doctor. (Reply #29)

Tue May 22, 2012, 07:37 PM

34. Here is what you said...

Here's what works: You HIT them. You HUMILIATE them. You INTIMIDATE them with a greater show of force, and if that means you have big, dangerous friends, so be it.

you have to lower yourself to their level and be uncivilized


Now, I know I snipped it and this is what I got out of what your OP said. In order to fight back against a bully, you have to become a bully. Turn the tables so to speak.

You want to make imbalanced relationship imbalanced with the bully as it was with you. That is what I am seeing from what you wrote.

I completely disagree with this notion. I can defend myself against a bully without turning the tables or making them feel as I felt when they were bullying me. I don't have a need for that kind of retribution. You are advocating becoming the bully so that you won't be bullied. I find this argument invalid and full of faults.

What do you think makes a bully? Why do you think a bully acts as they do? Is it possible they are themselves being bullied at home? Maybe they are trying to find a way to fight against feeling weak and ineffective themselves? Maybe this is the only way they know how to fight?

That is why I am saying that turning the tables on them as you are advocating does not work and at best is only a temporary solution. A bully's problems run way deeper than even just fighting back. They need help...serious help so that they don't continue this kind of behavior throughout their lives.

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